I don't know what to do...

[justsad]

Hi everyone, thank you in advance for any responses or advice you have for me.

I am 26, and my boyfriend is 27. We've been together for 2 years, and living together for 8 months. Our relationship has been great - very much in love, planning for the future, even awaiting the arrival of our little puppy in the next few weeks.

However, our sex life (or lack thereof) has really started to weigh on me. We went from having sex daily, if not more than 1x a day to 4 times a week...to 2...and I'd like to say we may do it once a week, and only because I ask for it. He watches porn daily, and is on facebook looking up other girls profiles. He doesn't do anything wrong, I just feel so neglected and hurt that he never wants to touch me. I try really hard to keep myself in good shape - I'm 5'7, 118 pounds. So, its not that I'm out of shape. I've also never had difficulty getting a bf. He tells me I'm "great in the sack", and whenever I do anything he always says its fantastic.

I have been buying more revealing clothes...trying to make things more interesting, and nothing works.

Its so confusing because I keep thinking he's not interested in me, but he says it has nothing to do with me. Were both in grad school, but his program is a bit more intense. He says he's just so stressed out...but it hurts that he can't make the time to even touch me, yet he has no problem making time for porn (let me mention that I don't care that he watches porn, I just get upset when he does and never touches me).

He keeps talking about us getting married, and he keeps searching for houses for us to buy. I don't even mention it...so what gives? I'm just at a loss, I feel invisible and my self esteem is going down the tubes. Could there be another girl?? I don't know. I have talked to him about it and he says he totally understands my position, but nothing is changing.

I don't know what to do.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks ahead of time.

[smackie9]

Time to take a more serious look of why he disassociates himself from you. You need to sit him down and ask him how he feels about the present situation of your relationship. He may talk of marriage but it's just talk and not to be taken as a promise. He may not be ready for this kind of committed relationship and is afraid to tell you.