He says he loves me and wants to support me-but doesn't want to be with me. Help!!

[RdHrshyKss]

^^agree with incog on this one 100%

[anon9086]

Incog--as much as it hurts to hear it, that sounds right. Even if someone else isn't in the picture yet, he's not making an effort to keep me close in any sense. Yes, I do feel like I'm just in the way and he feels a guilt so he offers to help me when I move out. Today, I made a sort of last stand pitch. I'm leaving the country for 3 months, I mentioned that the time could be could for us and when I'm back, if he wants to, here's what we could do differntly. He said 'ok ' to everything, but did not offer any positive encouragement. I got disheartened when he went to watch tv and asked 'Was that pointless? Is this totally pointless for me to make an effort?' and he said no, but that we need time and space-but he didn't state to what end. Time and space to move on? Or time and space to work it out? He also had said that he has 'no intention' of finding someone else right now, or pursuing a sexual relationship, but he doesn't know how he'll feel further down the road and won't make me any promises so that I can hang over his head if the day comes. To me, this sounds like a safety net to do whatever with whomever. He says he doesn't want to talk about it, or hear about it, there is no us right now, at this moment. How he'll feel when I get back, he can't say.

I think I am beating a dead horse. He's not reciprocating, he's not trying and is likely biding his time waiting for me to leave. In past experiences, though I've never had such a significant relationship before, the answers are always simple. I tend to complicate it, looking for fragments I can glean for hope. Bottom line-I am trying, he is not, so he must not want to. I feel that this time and space will only serve to remove me completely from the picture, he just can't man up and say it.

Frickin A, guys. Just tell a girl you want to be single and date other people and let them get on with the lives. Jeebus.