what should I do?

[Ginjeet]

Hi! I really need some advice or opinions..

I have a house in the beach, where I go every summer since I have memory (and keep going). There I've met a lot of my actual best friends. The thing is, at the beginning of the year I had a crush on a friends sister (not my best friend, but certainly a good one), she is 2 years younger than me. So, to make a long story short, we started dating. I talked it with my friend to see if he was OK with it, and he told me that it was weird for him, but that I shouldn't worry.

So, she was like the first girl I started dating seriously (like thinking in a relationship and stuff), so it was sort of difficult for me to call her too much, 'cause I didn't know if I was being too annoying or too needy and I thought that as long as she wasn't officialy my girlfriend there was no need to do it.. but every weekend I called her and she would come to my house or something..

After a month, I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend and, for my surprise, she said no, because I didn't call her in the week and she expected that I talked more with her and that she felt that I was just having fun.. of course I told her that I didn't call because I didn't want to be annoying and stuff, mainly 'cause I was scared of blowing it, but she had made his mind, so we "broke up"...

The thing is, now every time I go out with my friends, she is there, every time that I go to the beach, she is there... It is really annoying, because I know that is over and I should try to forget about her, but is really difficult because of all the friends we have in common (her brother, and cousins to begin with) and because I won't stop seeing her even if I try to... in fact, I'm going to the beach next week and she will be there!... I don't know how to act or what to do when we are together..

sorry for the long story .. any comments about it??

[MrBojangles]

It's a shitty situation and there's absolutely nothing you can do about, except:

a: Avoid hanging out with her
b: Find a new girl
c: Time will solve all

I suggest b and if that fails you can always rely on c.

[SapphireBerry]

I think i could give you a piece of advice = find another chick, surely there is one you will meet in a bar or a social area and you will feel the same about her and then she will make you forget about this girl and then when you go to the beach with this new girlfriend and this other chick is there you'll have nothing to worry about cause you have moved on. And she probably will to, face it, wasn't meant to be.

[Ginjeet]

Thanks for the answers! Probably, as you say, the answer is finding another girl, but is not that easy and in the meantime I just don't know what to do... also there's another problem, my friends bigger sister is getting married and he invited me to the marriage party.. I'm suposse to invite a girl to go with me, but I don't know who to invite, plus I know it would be terrible for me to see my "ex" with another guy... I've thought that I should excuse myself and don't go, but he is a really close friend...