This is ridiculous, but a comment on shoes?!?

[ryna88]

I have an acquaintance at a college group that I attend and there's a guy that I am a little attracted to. He's always been friendly with me and we always have nice conversations but we don't know each other well. Randomly one day...he came up to me, calls my name and says, "Hey, look, we're wearing the same color shoes!" I looked at him, looked at his shoes (they were also brown) and smiled and played back and said, "That's right, uh huh!" I thought that was the most RANDOM and ODD thing coming from him. He never says stuff like that to me. He definitely is not that type of guy that dresses formally, not metro, or not into fashion...just dresses like a typical college guy.

Okay, so that was just one instance. We actually started talking/texting, and we really click. He's pretty normal and not a socially awkward person, has a ton of friends, very intelligent, and going to a big 10 school...We ended up randomly talking on the phone the other day for like a half hour when I called just to ask him one quick question...


I just realized how ridiculous this is. I'll be straightforward - would a guy have any reason to comment on something that insignificant? Maybe I should just ask him out, haha.

[iamkayelem]

If you read any of those ridiculous books or blogs about how to hint to a woman that you like her, they all say "comment on her shoes!" In my opinion, it's quite ridiculous and gives off more of a homosexual vibe than anything else. If you want to comment on a woman's appearance, you should do it on in overall basis. Then again, I don't really have the successful background to really say.

It does seem like a random thing to do, to come up to you and mention matching color shoes. I'd say he was trying to start a conversation and didn't know what to say. If it wasn't a "this guy is a freak" turnoff for you, and he was just being himself (usual personality) then I'd say go for it, he's probably interested.

[smackie9]

When a guy comes out of nowhere and comments about anything, he's trying to communicate that he is interested. Ask him out hun. Even this guy lacks a little confidence, help him out.

[Yet another guy]

Yes, I have seen a few of those x tips on "how to tell a woman you are interested" or "what to do on a first date" blogs or posts. Most of them seem to stress that a man should wear fancy shoes and always compliment the girl on their shoes. Either all those bloggers have a shoe fetish or there's just one and everyone is ripping her off.

It's quite possible that he has read one of those and was trying to show his interest or maybe he was nervous around you and said something silly. Either way, since you seem to like him, I agree with iamkayelem. Go for it.

[ryna88]

I haven't actually read any of those blogs, but I've heard about them...haha. Any guy that has ever commented on my shoes before this was metro/gay. I just thought that was odd that somebody noticed my ordinary brown skechers.

[Gratedwasabi]

I haven't actually read any of those blogs, but I've heard about them...haha. Any guy that has ever commented on my shoes before this was metro/gay. I just thought that was odd that somebody noticed my ordinary brown skechers.

He didn't. He noticed YOU and went for a cool compliment. He utterly failed, but it's the thought that counts.

Want to test it? Call/text him and ask him what kind of shoe he complimented. He won't remember. He lurves you.

It's difficult complimenting a girl. All these rules and shit that you're not supposed to just say "you're beautiful" and guys get confused. Personally I stick with KISS and if I find a woman beautiful I say it. I also have this thing I do where I start staring into her eyes and "pretend" like I lose my train of thought, then shake it off and look away, embarrassed. It's my best compliment and drops panties like they're made of concrete.

[ryna88]

I'm not gonna lie...I looked more dressed up that day. I'm not trying to be cocky and say I'm hot, but I looked more dolled up than I normally do, because I just felt like dressing up that night.

PS. I did try calling him a few days after to ask him a quick question - we ended up talking til midnight. I ended the call because I had to be up early the next day for work.

[ryna88]

Random enough that I had to ask you guys why the heck he did that! They were just brown, worn, skechers...not sexy high heels or something.


What the heck - I'll ask him out.

[Yet another guy]

I wish you the very best of luck

[smackie9]

He had to think of something real quick, because he finally saw opportunity to speak to you and get your attention. He probably thought afterwards "What was I thinking to say that? I must have sounded like a total idiot" lol

[ryna88]

I get the general idea that everyone thinks that he might be interested...but why doesn't he ask me out? I thought that if a guy likes a girl, generally he will make it happen...hmmm. I see him about once to twice a week and we have a lot of mutual friends. My best guy friends are good friends with him.

Yeah, yeah, I know I said I'll probably ask him out, but now I'm getting a bit nervous, and to do what?

I actually texted him yesterday with a, "Merry Christmas!!!" and I didn't get a text back yet... :-\

[Yet another guy]

but why doesn't he ask me out?

He's probably shy. Or maybe he is discouraged because he hasn't noticed strong enough signals of interest from you (maybe you haven't shown them or he is new to this and doesn't recognize them). Or maybe he has had bad relationship experiences and is anxious about it. Or maybe since you meet each other often, he is already testing whether you stay interested before jumping in. Or since your best guy friends are good friends with him, one of them might have a crush on you and he knows it. Or... better not dwell on it

Don't assume too much about the text message either. Best to assume that he hasn't seen it yet. Plenty of explanations for that one too.

[vhayes8886]

next chance you get at least bring it up to him. even the sign that your thinking about it will make him feel great. just make sure it doesn't sound like an accusation.