Hey all,
I've been with a girl for three months, but throughout the relationship I've had the same fear and been quite troubled by it.
Personally, I tend to mostly hook up with girls, and only immerse myself in a relationship when I feel a genuine connection and get the idea that it could be mutually serious.
My girlfriend, conversely, is rarely ever alone, and within the past year and a half she has gone no more than a few weeks without a boyfriend/a consistent hook up. There was a time when she wasn't involved, but that was simply due to work constraints where she wasn't meeting guys and simply had no time.
Although I have real feelings for my girlfriend, I feel a bit insecure about whether or not our relationship is pure or genuine. I'm leaving myself vulnerable to some criticism, but I really want my relationships to be founded on real feelings that transcend hooking up, just "having fun," or getting involved merely because someone else likes you.
The fact that she is constantly with a guy leads me to believe, in the worst of times, that she loves the attention of a man, and that I am merely the next in line.
My girlfriend routinely says that she is infatuated with me and is in love with me, but I sometimes think that she doesn't know the meaning of real love, and that I'm just better than the truly awful boyfriends that she's had before. On that note, she has told every single boyfriend (5 straight) that she loved them not a month into their relationships, and most ended up dumping her because it got too serious too quickly for their liking.
I know that I'm coming off as super insecure, but any advice would be really appreciated.
Thanks and happy Christmas.