Originally Posted by
hope555
Hey all,
My ex and I were together for about ten months, when he broke up with me because he felt bad for treating me so poorly and didn't want me to end up hating him. Since then, we've tried to maintain some form of a friendship. At first it was quite reciprocal, where you could tell he missed me so he came over and texted me. But now, we're following the dating pattern of our relationship where again, I'm the one texting him. Even if he texts me first to say hi, I have to keep the conversation going. This is causing me soooooo much frustration. We use blackberry messenger to text. When we were dating, we used to text each other all day everday! Now its frustrating to see how he treats me. There's two reasons that I still put off not deleting him from my blackberry messenger: 1. I don't want to seem like I can't get over him without deleting all signs of him. It gives him too much power and adds to the arrogant jerk he already is, 2. What if he does change and starts acting like the boy I once dated? Deleting him would mean losing that awesome friend he was to me at first. I want to keep things civil and mature....and I don't think deleting him will do that. But he just frustrates me soooooo much as a friend nowdays when he doesn't seem to genuinely care about anyone besides himself. What should I do???
He broke up because he felt bad for treating you poorly? Really? I've never heard of that one before. You have to delete him altogether to keep from using bberry messenger, right (you can't just remove his phone number, as bberry msngr uses your PIN)?
Anyways, I mean no offense, but to me it sounds as if you're not being honest with the real reason why you don't want to remove him, you're holding on, hoping that things get better (which is the real reason, no?), but you're saying you dont' want to seem like you can't get over him without deleting all signs of him. Are you being honest with us, and more importantly, yourself?
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