EVERYONE says run but I can't even put the shoes on!
Ok so here is the deal...
(in a nutshell)
I met a guy last year and we hit it off straight away. We had only known each other about 3 weeks before we starting going out together officially but it felt like we had known each other for ages. We had great times together and he was so nice to me all the time... my friends used to say he was besotted with me and he would refer to me as a saint etc etc... We never fought and in the summer we went on a trip to Asia...everything was pretty serious and everything was pretty awesome...
BUT
...basically I was always a bit iffy about this guy as I felt that he couldnt be as perfect as he seemed...there were always little gaps and glitches in his stories and facts in stories would sometimes change second time round etc etc... anyway one day we were having a discussion about people we had been with before each other (bad bad conversation too have I know)... now I knew that he had been in a 3/4 yr relationship before me but I was under the impression that this had ended 8 months previous to us getting together and that he had not been with anyone else since...which is exactly what he told me.
Ok so here is where I am the bad guy...anyways for some reason I just didn't believe this and went on a mission to find out if this was true or not...basically I looked at his phone / went through his facebook history and found out that there was in fact someone before me and the had only really stopped being in contact when he met me. (I know I am the ultimate bad guy/ girlfriend psycho for doing that but I had to)
Ok so I now know that he has lied blatantly to my face and I now know the name of this girl.
Basically after another few months it all comes out one drunken night. disaster. he denies it all. of course he does. buuuuut I believe him and we are back on track. I.am.a.loser.I.know.
Ok so basically a few more stupid lies are told and he ends up breaking up with me based on me not trusting him. I asked him not to do it. he did. He then doesnt talk to me for a month. I then get a drunken phonecall asking me to get back with him and then from there on in has been contacting me ever since asking me to get back with him and that he has made the biggest mistake of his life...I have not given him a direct answer but I have been meeting up with him etc etc because I enjoy his company and I still love him.
Anyway things r looking up,3 months pass and it is kinda looking like it would be nice to try things again...BUT THEN BOOOOOOM.....I am out with my girls in a nightclub and I bump into....HER! the girl before me who "did not exist".... she recognises me from photos and comes over to say hello...I nearly get sick and pretend I am not in contact with this guy anymore and I have to do it...I ask her about their history..anyway she tells me exactly what I thought...they were together for a few months..fizzled out when he met me but stayed in contact right up untill August....which would have been when I confronted him about all this (something like 9months in)...anyway he STILL denies it and I don't believe him this time but I am convincing myself that he is good deep down and that it is all irrelevant... but I just cant stop thinking "WHY THE HELL DID HE LIE ABOUT THIS GIRL'S EXISTINCE YET KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HER WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER?!?!?" and also is he telling the truth and she is lieing? (oh he told me she is lieing)
everyone says run but I can't even put the flippin shoes on to get out the door!! HELP!!
We are all a little weird and life is a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.