get ready for the long story.. me and my ex boyfriend dated for two years. he was my first love and I was his. well things didnt work out.. we went 8 months without speaking or being nice to each other... finally later we started hanging out and we were getting close again. I thought maybe he was just wanting to be friends (cause he never shows feelings) , i knew i still had feelings for him so we stopped hanging out and i met this other guy. he was nice and sweet someone i felt like i could actually be with. Who is my boyfriend now. When me and my boyfriend starting hanging out my ex tried to get me back he actually cried and said he made a mistake if i would just try it again.. and all i could ask him is why after 8 months is he just now doing this? So i turned him down and im with my boyfriend and weve been dating for a year now and around our 8th month anniversery everything changed. he expects me to do everything, he still aint gotta job and hes got a little boy with another girl and everything he says hes going to do he doesnt... but im not the kind of person to just give up... I want things to work out but I've been thinking alot of my ex and weve talked and both of us realized that our relationship failed because of eachother. we've coulda fixed things, and compromised but we didn't. I'm not expecting someone to answer about my situation...all I really want to know is how can you tell if someone is the one for you?