Hi everyone! I'm JUST a guy who needs advice from you peeps :)

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I don't want just my friends to help me because i know they are just trying to help me not get hurt, I need someone who will give me a straight up answer on my situation that's why i posted something here. Usually i don't have to work this hard to get a girl to date and go out with me but something is different with this girl, it's like the more i take my time to knowing her the more i will be happy. OK my story is I'm madly in love with this girl and we started talking. I find her interesting and all so I started to be more sweet and smooth with my actions and it worked we started knowing each other more, going out but slowly, she started to say I like you and all. She actually said this, "who ever you'd be with she'll be very lucky, at one point we were really close and were a bit touchy. At one point both of us got busy and have not talked for a while but we talk here and there but every time we do talk it seems like were really glad that we talked again. The time that we're good to meet up and talk again privately because its not so busy anymore things has changed. I told her I'm moving somewhere else faraway from out town and she said " no, don't move i cant take that" i said i'm not moving completely, i'll keep on going back if have the time and i said i got a lot of reasons to go back. Out of nowhere she asked me, " do u have girlfriend"? i said no and out of nowhere i asked her back, "do youu"? and she said "no". and i said why she asked that for even that i told her that i'm not seeing anyone eversince. Out of nowhere she said a guy that she liked way back since she was 15 has been contacting her for a while and they have been seeing each other and catching up. Out of nowhere she said this " i like this guy and he was the one and i think he stil is" i was completely shocked when she said it, it's like my mind just stopped on an instant and i wanted to erase those words that she said. So my question is all the things that we have done have turned into nothing? because of that time that we were busy. if she really doesn't want me to leave thn why is she telling me this and doing this things that will just break my heart. damn i don't know what to do now. i need some advice

[smackie9]

Totally in the friends zone dude. When a girl says "who ever you'd be with she'll be very lucky" it actually means "you are a great guy, but not for me".

[smackie9]

Here's the way it is. Girls can be emotionally attached to you but not sexually attracted to you. She likes the attention you give her, so she strings you along and you keep giving it to her. It's great that you are willing to do this without the obligation of sex. Girls like this use guys like you for this type of attention til they find a BF. Shocker? no, you were in the friends zone. Tip: never be friends with girls you want to sleep with. You are not BF material to them if you are friends. Get it?

[smackie9]

Is that straight up enough?

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Straight up it is bud. That's what I wanted. But do you think that I can be in this guy's way and stop him before its too late? She's really something, she's that type of girl should be taken serious because she is more than a 10. And ye she actually said once that, if she is looking for one, she would go for a guy like me, but that doesnt matter now I know. You wouldn't get it if I just say that I have to take it slow this time because she is really different from the others, she really is like those girl that pops out 1/100000 times.

[Crista]

She is confused !!.She is torn apart between choosing the guy that is perfect for her (you) and choosing the first guy she ever liked (the other guy).The guy that she liked when she was 15,she probably never told him how she felt for him. Women are always confused when it comes to choosing their partners.They can never make up their mind.Undeniably,many want to live with their first loves.But actually,in love,it doesn't matter who is your first love...what matters most is who is the first to truly love you....Women never get that...they keep cheating themselves...The best advice is....if you truly love this girl and you believe that "she really is like those girl that pops out 1/100000 times"...then go for it.....keep on loving her....She has never forgotten anything that happened between the both of you.....none of this would not have happened if the other guy didn't contacted her all of a sudden.....when she said "who ever you'd be with she'll be very lucky"...she actually had a minor crush on you...your soft and charming ways had attracted her....her actual statement is "if I'm with you,I'll be very lucky". And when a girl herself pops the question " do u have girlfriend?"...she actually wanted to propose you..but for some reason she kept it to herself....probably due to the crush that she had for the other guy....tell her that you don't care if she likes the other guy or not....but you will always love her.....your statement will give her a wake up call and maybe magnetically attract her too. !!!

[twinrexes]

I remember when a friend of mine was in a space like that. She was a vibrant, attractive woman (as I'm sure your 10+ gal is) so of course she got a attention from lots of guys. So, she had the luxury of choosing. This made her a little confused. She'd talk about it with her girlfriends and go over the pros and cons. In fact, one guy she was considering was an ex that she had a lot of history with and the attraction there was that it was comfortable and familiar, kind of like going back and picking up where she'd left off. You, you're the "new guy". Probably more of a friend, like others have suggested.

You have such a powerful attraction to her, and you're so nice to her. She senses that you're infatuated. This means you're not a challenge. Yeah, you'll be great for someone else but too easy for her. Still she's wondering...So she asks if you have a gf. And she's thinking she should keep you around as an option. So she says don't move away.

Time to start pulling back a little. Stay in the picture but act a little more aloof. Girls love that. Start teasing her a little and saying stuff like "you're such a nerd you can't decided on that guy when clearly I'm the better choice!" You know, have her thinking you KNOW you're all that. And you're not worried about the competition. In a light hearted way. A little cockiness mixed with humor, and making sure you don't fawn over her, that's a great recipe for attraction!