Need Serious Advice

[needanswers2229]

There is a girl - we'll call her "Brittney" for now - who has been my friend for over 2 years. She is an attractive girl but I never really thought much of her because she has had a boyfriend for the past 4 years. We're both seniors in college and last semester Brittney and I had a class together. We started hanging out a lot for homework and studying for tests and I started developing feelings for her. She also started telling me things about her boyfriend such as how they don't talk about anything and how she does not find him attractive. She said she tried breaking up with him in the past but he threatened suicide on her each time. Here's the kicker - her boyfriend is a year older than us and is waiting to see where Brittney is going to school so that they can go to school together next year. However, Brittney knows that she doesn't want to go to school with him and plans on ending things with him in March when she makes her decision on her school.

Now, Brittney has developed feelings for me as well and admitted them to me before the end of the semester. We didn't act on our feelings at first, and I resisted Brittney's attempts to kiss me for three straight nights. However, on the fourth night we kissed and things progressed from there in terms of physical/sexual acts. I ended up spending the night twice in a row before the semester ended.

Over the winter break, Brittney kept texting me while she was with her boyfriend and she was very flirtatious. We talked a few times and she told me that she knows she has to break up with him but knows that its very difficult to do so given the holidays. She also said that it would be easier for her to just break up with him in March instead of now and that she is scared to lose him, how much she loves him (even though she says she is not in love with him), how she is scared to just lose 4 years of memories, etc.

However, Brittney did sit down and talk to her boyfriend over the break multiple times and told him that they were broken up and things can't be fixed. Her boyfriend did not accept it and would act like nothing wrong happened, and Brittney told me she would make it official by the time break ended.

So we came back from break and nothing is official yet. Brittney said that she doesn't have the heart to do it, even though we hooked up 4 times in the past 6 nights since coming back. She isn't even trying at this point as she constantly responds to his texts and talks to him online.

This is really affecting me. I feel horrible for what I am doing but I do really like her and she really likes me. I also feel bad for her boyfriend because he has no idea what is going on. What should I do in this situation? Move on? Tell her boyfriend? I have no idea. Please help.

[Boisdevie]

Tell her boyfriend that you are shagging his girlfriend = trip to casualty.

[Cinnabella]

Oh well tell her bf that you were being a Hero and helped him from chasing an evil gf away- and to you. Sometimes I wonder if people knows what Karma is, do you know it? Imagine yourself being in his position Right Now ;-).

[justcheckin]

once a cheater always a cheater, if that is your future gf what makes you any different? She was once attracted to him at one point in time