hi
i'm new here, i'm tearing my hair trying to figure out my boyfriend but i just cant so can you please help me?
we've been together for 14months and we live together. i have a young son from a previous relationship that my current partner has taken a long time to warm to, only really the last 4 or 5 months.
he is insanely into cars and is constantly in his workshop day after day except thats an issue in itself - hes impossible to wake up, often doesnt get up till 2pm (when i go to work), i come home at 7pm and hes not here, im presuming hes at his workshop 99% of the time but he doesnt come home till gone midnight, this past week it has been 6.30am and 4.30am on two occasions so basically, im not seeing him at all hence we dont get chance to talk, he doesnt bother to ring me unless he wants something.
for our first christmas together he bought me a nintendo ds. then for valentines day - i got nothing, not a card not even a meal out. my birthday - i got a card and a trip to the cinema. this christmas - i got a blanket with arms.
we dont go out anywhere, we dont do anything. he doesnt take an interest in my horses despite me having taken a keen interest in cars for him and have even gone and bought my own project car to work on.
he doesnt help around the house and when discussed with him the other week, the general response was that he doesnt mind helping round the house if i'm going to stop making a mess?! yet i clear up his mess every day!!! hes not worked for the best part of a year now since a bad accident last february and i have been left to support the bills and everything on a part time wage and even when i was out of work for 6 months i still had to support everything.
i feel totally unappreciated, totally taken for granted and im beginning to wonder if his interests are elsewhere??
thoughts please?!!!