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    In love but so shy

    Im a senior at my highschool getting ready to garduate amd i'm in love with a girl at school. I'm really shy and don't know where to begin I can't talk to her alone because she is always surrounded by her friends. This isnt a crush, these are true feelings. I need help. Please!

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    Quote Originally Posted by InLoveWithYou View Post
    Im a senior at my highschool getting ready to garduate amd i'm in love with a girl at school. I'm really shy and don't know where to begin I can't talk to her alone because she is always surrounded by her friends. This isnt a crush, these are true feelings. I need help. Please!

    Not a crush huh?
    How many girls have you dated?
    You're almost an adult if not one already YET you don't know how to approach someone to tell them how you feel?
    I didn't have the game, the guns nor the looks but I still did it when I was 8 years old. Approaching people is cake.

    What does she like?
    Why do you like her?
    What makes her so special to make your feelings "real?"

    Then correlate: what you like and incorporate them with what SHE likes.

    These ^^^ are what you use to talk to her.
    She isn't around her friends 24/7 -since you are shy:

    befriend one of her friends, and talk to them and find out when she is approachable.
    Then talk to her. Smile, be confident, assertive, funny, and outgoing.
    No woman ever wants to be approached by some down and out guy who doesn't smile, who looks sad, or insecure.

    If this is you, you need to first put yourself on a higher level than where you are currently or you won't have to be shy...
    She will be put off by the smell of insecurity.

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    Wow didnt quite realize how desperate I made myself sound...

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    I've dated plenty I just don't want to screw it up thats all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InLoveWithYou View Post
    Wow didnt quite realize how desperate I made myself sound...
    I've dated plenty I just don't want to screw it up thats all.
    Well considering it took you 4 minutes in between these two sentences in order to hit the reply button
    you gotta learn to gather your thoughts and reveal them: to the girl you like.

    If you've dated plenty how does this situation fair any differently?
    I fail to see how your experiences with *plenty* of girls doesn't provide you with the knowledge one would find in abundance...
    I didn't date plenty in HS! My experiences being socially outgoing gave me the tools to approach anyone. Of course
    if you're socially awkward -this can be easily fixed.

    Ask yourself bro, what do you have to lose? A rejection? SO WHAT!
    Rejection molds and shapes a man's character. Do it. I guarantee you she
    won't be your wife. Nothing to lose: be bold, get creative and talk to her.
    At first she might even be put off (so make the first impression the best you can make it) and persevere.

    Then if she truly isn't interested: it's her choice, not yours.
    Don't be like the many stalkers that post here and don't take hints nor social ques very well.
    Man up, face her, talk to her. Make her smile, laugh...If you had the perfect body and looks you wouldn't
    be here asking for advice on how to approach anyone...So attract her with what you have to offer: depth.

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    This isnt a crush, these are true feelings...
    If you don't know her nor have ever talked to her....it's a CRUSH.

    Crushes feel like love and feelings and all that lovey dovey stuff...

    Kids eh?

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    Sorry I didnt mention it before I'm new to this whole typing thoughts thing. I've known the girl for about a year now. Please try to be a little patient with me. We talk some but I fear we are stuck in that friend stage.
    Last edited by InLoveWithYou; 21-01-11 at 04:56 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InLoveWithYou View Post
    Sorry I didnt mention it before I'm new to this whole typing thoughts thing. I've known the girl for about a year now. Please try to be a little patient with me. We talk some but I fear we are stuck in that friend stage.
    Patience, I've got plenty of.
    If I were you I'd get accustomed to writing out your thoughts...It provides release, insight and piece of mind.
    If you talk some, and she doesn't take notice: understand you can't MAKE someone like you.
    All we can do is to tell you to try new things, show her other sides not presently known to her and that's it.

    Really, you're a senior in HS?
    You never answered my questions why you like her?
    Care to take a stab at these questions?

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    She's very cute, she always makes me smile, she's funny, she makes me feel special we are the same but still different in our own ways.
    Oh and yes a senior in HS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InLoveWithYou View Post
    She's very cute, she always makes me smile, she's funny, she makes me feel special we are the same but still different in our own ways.
    Oh and yes a senior in HS.
    You like her smile, pretty generic especially if she's very attractive...but it's a start.
    She's funny? How? How does she make you feel special?

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    Well, she's kind of ditzy and clumsy. She tells funny jokes (kind of morbid but still hilarious!). As for special thats how. It seems like every other girl was just a conquest up until this point. She's different I just don't know why.

    Sorry I type kinda slow.

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    What do you have to loose?
    You need to practice such skills to stop being that shy. I am sure you can overcome this to try your luck with a nice girl! Seriously, how did you start dating before?

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    Ask her out to dinner when you are speaking to her on one occasion. You can send her an invitation and then call to follow up.
    'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Alfred Lord Tennyson

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