What should I do? :(

[imgoingcrazy]

Hello there, me and my parter have been together for 1 year and 5 months now. 1 year(Together w/o long distance) 5 months(long distance)Im 15 and she's 16 .we're having some problems. Well she lied to me a couple of times now and i've grown tired. im kinda pissed at her till now but i still love her. i wanna break up with her but im scared that i can't. im going home soon, maybe in 2/3 months. but then im not sure if i can still hold that long. i can tell you some little details about it if you need to but my main point+question is

Point

She lied(couple of times already)
I don't trust her anymore.
I just can't find it in me to believe in her anymore.
She frequently sends me a message/Chat via yahoo messenger now.Before she was sending me messages everyday, she's doing everything she couldjust to send me a message/chat with me but now she isn't.she's not making an effort at all,which makes me think she doesn't care that much anymore
Painful words from her...
Too much guys. i don't know if they have something or not. Must be jealousy. i don't know. but in my eyes im like "It's her, they must have something! i just know it!" this just shows that i don't trust her anymore.

im not sure if i still love her or it's just the lust for revenge that's making me hold on.

but im pretty sure that i'll be miserable if we broke up. does that mean that i still love her?

we're okay now but you see.. i still feel bad, should i just forget about it and tell her that it's her very very very last chance? what if she lies to me again,then if we broke up i can't help myself but to be miserable? what should i do? im in a country where im being discriminated(because i can't speak there language very well) i don't have friends here.(same reason) but i do have friends in my home country, but i can't chat with them forever right?it would still be easier if they were here with me physically right?

We had a good relationship when we were together, we only broke up once, the 3rd month was the only bad month for us (lies+some other issues) but then she tried her best to rebuild my trust. she really did, she was very loyal to me that she didn't even have any guy friends anymore, we were together all the time,if we weren't together then we'd be on the phone 24/7(semi-literally "my new word mwahah" see? just remembering our good times makes me cry a little, and happy too im going crazy right now.

im sorry if my sentences are vague. my mind's too messy right now to compose a proper sentence. but i hope you guys can still understand what i typed. thank you for the answers in advance. i hope to hear from you guys soon. i just need a real advice.. im tired of hearing those "GOGOGO BREAK UP WITH HER DUDE! ROTFL" i had enough of those with my tarded friends -_-(<3 them though)

[HeartIsAching]

I'd say you'd do well to sever your relationship. Sorry, but your friends are right.

[SelflessnHumble]

LDR don't work, dude, this is lesson #1. Lesson #2 is: People who LIE are pieces of shit who don't deserve to breathe oxygen.

What did she lie about and HOW did you know she lied? Are you just assuming?
2nd of all, I doubt it's love based on your writing and lack of experience(s)
With immature little girls: If the cat's away the mice will play, make sense?

It's obvious you have strong feelings for her BUT loving someone doesn't mean you
explode into anti-matter if and when they lie to you, and they even cheat on you! Why?

Love means you accept what they do, and just want them to be happy.
The issue (due to immaturity) is that people become afraid to tell the truth, because they enjoy living that lie.
If she is happy lying to you: cool...Just tell her you cannot be with a liar...Your choice, not hers.

If you like torturing yourself and feel that being with her completes you (which isn't true) then give her
One Million chances, she will still fail to meet your expectations and you will continue to feel this BS.

No matter what you choose to do: you will want to confront her in person when you return.
Your friends, her friends will know the truth even if you never saw it. Trust your instinct.

Above all else, dude you're only 15/16 Be smart, not silly.
Concentrate on your studies FIRST...When you graduate HS -then college you will have the pick of the litter, trust me.
All the girls will want you, but only if you're patient and wait. Little girls suck to be with...They lie, lie cheat, lie and cheat some more...

[imgoingcrazy]

Thanks for the quick answer. Yes she lied, she herself said so. I can't explain it since it's too long and too hard for me to write it out in sentences, it's just too complicated. I told her that it's her last chance now(It's the first time that I told her this, and last if ever.), and I think I'll stick up to it. But then if ever she lies to me again, how should I handle it? Im not saying that im planning ahead on our break up. I just feel like I need to know what to do. I have nothing in here, no friends only family. I only have 1 brother and he's 3, I can't even hang out with him. Im not that close to my Mom and Dad, I just don't feel like it. See? There's no one here to help me.

I know we're too immature for a long distance relationship, but we'll be together pretty soon(2/3 months as stated above) should I wait? She never lied to me when we were together. I don't know man..

I'm doing great in my studies, but I just can't handle the stress of having all my classmates laugh at me whenever I try to talk. I just feel sad, and that pretty much makes me weaker from everything. I'm not that that "sucker" guy back then, I'm just an average funny kid,a friend to everyone. I'm not used to be alone. This sucks..

[SelflessnHumble]

What is so hard to explain? Is it too embarrassing? That's what it sounds like.
Anyway, if she lies to again (and she will) you have options:

Continue to be that "sucker" you claim you aren't OR
Stand up for yourself and dump her lying ass.
Then ask yourself how can you love a lying piece of shit like that? If you can answer this: I'd avoid serious relationships until
you learn your own self worth, and inject some much needed confidence and assertiveness within your life.

It's possible your family doesn't know how to affirm their love for you: so show them and involve them: this is how it's done.
You should not wait, dude, trust me. A liar finds it hard to stop lying UNTIL they realize that it's wrong (take it from a former sociopath) k?
She won't realize it just because you've called her out on her lies...make sense?

Handle what stress dude?
Stress is a freaking illusion, that's right! An illusion.
If you are socially awkward: Everyone has felt this way before.

What you need is some experiences. Get out, meet new people.
Don't let bullies dictate your life! Trust me on that one.

You're always going to be faced with being alone. It doesn't suck.
This is life telling you that you need to get more in touch with yourself, and not focus on what other people think, or say/feel about you.

If you don't figure this shit out: no one will for you.

[ashley89]

you guys are young! if you're not happy and she's lying, just break up. there are plenty of other girls out there and you have your whole life ahead of you