There are many issues I see.
You haven't learned the basic values/principles of a relationship and how to keep it working...
You don't communicate, you internalize your feelings.
The women you claim you want to marry has children: this is priority #1 and supersedes your whining about traffic.
Traffic sucks, we all know this -it is a natural occurring thing in dense, metropolitan areas.
If you'd like yet another failed relationship: by all means continue with your one dimensional plan. What is your alternative of it fails?
Contingency is common sense and every accountant considers variable change as a constant...
A man steps up, expresses his feelings about the issues that create the fundamental disagreement of your internalization...
Tell her how you feel and what she thinks you two can do to work it out. -I say wait until you have a job, a house
and your affairs in order before marriage. I think your planning in general sucks because look at what is on your plate?
Things don't just happen or fall in line. YOU need to make shit happen.