How to show a guy you are NOT interested!

[girl68]

I'm with vasti make up a fake boyfriend.

[Emerald_Dreams]

I got an idea.

Stop being an idiot and just tell him.

JFC, why simple things become major issues for some people, I'll never understand. And women are supposed to be the communicators? Sheesh.

No communication IS communication.....it says NOT INTERESTED.

No, it also says "BUSY".

I'm with vasti make up a fake boyfriend.

So you advocate lying in your personal life? Great.

[girl68]

^ 100% absolutely YES, in this case. If you think by me telling her to make up a false bf to a random dude is me saying it's all good to lie anywhere to anyone at anytime you're a fool.

[Emerald_Dreams]

^ 100% absolutely YES

Just checking.

[sweetkissesforu]

sorry about the length!!!

So, I'm trying to figure out a way to hint to a guy that i am NOT interested. (a little more difficult when you can't use body language, it's long distance)*

He is into me (I know this) although he has not confessed it to me directly. We are both 17, but he is in college (smart). Also super shy, so not the type that finds it easy to ask out a girl. During Xmas, he was flirting with me and I flirted back a bit because I wasn't sure. But as soon as he left I realized I didn't think of him in that way. A girl is allowed to change her mind!*

Now he texts and messages me non-stop about random things, and honestly it's getting annoying, not to mention awkward becuase often I don't know what to say. I have tried telling him I'm really busy or that Im distracted and can't talk. I haven't initiated any texts or convos and I've tried to distant myself but he isn't getting the hint. I haven't shown interest since Xmas, and don't want to lead him on. *

If you want to give me some advice about how to show a guy you ARE interested as well, I won't argue

write aan email tell him how you feel

[OkieDokie]

I'm going to go wtih just tell him your not interested. You'll stop being bothered by his texting and he'll move along.

[SelflessnHumble]

Sure, you are allowed to change your mind, BUT:
He didn't get the freaking memo!!!

So, here is how to tell him:

Pick up the phone.
Dial his phone number.
Tell him that when you flirted back: you were unsure about him UNTIL immediately afterward...
...but since you were a coward and didn't want to "hurt' his feelings you continually allowed this lie to perpetuate.

Then apologize that you don't like him, never did like him and didn't mean to flirt with him.

The end. (this is what grown ups do)

[xxazurexx]

No, it also says "BUSY".

I meant ignore him totally.

Constantly ignoring means NOT INTERESTED...

[SelflessnHumble]

I meant ignore him totally.

Constantly ignoring means NOT INTERESTED...

Not to people who are delusional it doesn't!
If they are ignored you are begging for a face to face, and usually it
happens in the most public/awkward setting imaginable.

Honesty: it's what's for dinner.

[xxazurexx]

Not to people who are delusional it doesn't!
If they are ignored you are begging for a face to face, and usually it
happens in the most public/awkward setting imaginable.

Honesty: it's what's for dinner.

Maybe you are right....some people are just too DUMB to get it.

I'm having same problem. Been ignoring for a week and for good reason. He doesn't seem to GET IT though and I'm still recieving messages asking how I am, all the usual shit....

He's not showing that he cares I havn't been replying, just keeps on asking how I am...duhhhhhh

If he cared I wasn't replying...why not call me??? duhhhhhhh

I could be in intensive care fighting for my life for all he knows....but has he made an effort to find out?? Noooooo

I guess it says it all.....which is why I will carry on ignoring.

[vashti]

So you advocate lying in your personal life? Great.

Obviously, you haven't had a problem with people who can't take "no" for an answer.

I don't consider this a catastrophic lie. It's a white lie delivered to spare his feelings and get her off the hook.

[ilove]

Ok wow, well I appreciate everyone's opinions and advice. But no I'm not a coward or a failed communicator, just wasn't sure how to deal with the situation, that's why I wrote it on here didn't I. I'll admit, I don't want to end up looking like the bad guy. I think I'll do what's right for me and him, but I can't say I'm going to pick up the phone right now and text him " I'm not interested". I realize now that being passive and neutral is not gonna work, neither is ignoring. This feedback was harsh, but i expected it.

[AllenGlines]

Change your number or file harassment charges. He won't stop.