Hi,
I am new to this site and in need of some serious advice. I will try to summarise it as short as possible.
I am 26 years old, female and live with my parents at home. I come from quite a religious background, however I do not follow the religion anymore and my parents dont know this. I love my parents and siblings very much, but I do not want to hurt them by telling them I dont follow the religion anymore. I have had many white boyfriends whom my family would not accept. Therefore all my relationships have been hidden from them. I have suffered from depression and alcohol addiction in the past. Last year I met a white man and we fell in love, I have never been in love before, its beautiful! He knew the relationship was temporary as my family would never accept him, and I told him I would never run away as my running away would split the family apart, give my Dad a heart attack etc... However as they say, its better to have loved and lost, than to never love at all. The end of last year was lovely!! Me and him were so happy. However earlier this year, we talked about when we should split up, as we had already passed the point of no return, we argued and split up. 2 weeks after we split he got into a new relationship, which really hurt me. However he told me he stil loves me, but he is glad we have split up, cos we can now move on with our lives. He can marry someone else, and I can marry someone my family will accept. I am used to breaking up.
The BIG difference to my previous relationships is the fact that I LOVE him and feel he is the one. And although I have always put my parents first, this time round, Im considering drastic actions. The only way forward I see, so I can be with my ex is if I fake my own death. As running away and as a result my family would DISOWN me forever, and would potentially split them up and hurt them, I feel is MUCH MUCH worse than if they knew I was dead and grieved that. Honestly I think my running away and leaving religion would kill them more than my death. Therefore I have been thinking all week of how to fake my death. I hope I have explained all this correctly and you can understand where Im coming from. I have been reading around faking death, and it seems impossible and too complex. What do you guys think? I am suffering so much, I really dont know what to do.
Thanks for reading.
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