Advice please

[ptaylor]

I know i have posted on here afew times but it does help to get advice from outsiders. I have split from my wife, married 3 years together 6, last october. i did the usuall text email etc begging pleading I will change etc. I have left here alone now for 2 weeks, apart from teh weekend whee I pick up our son. If you want to know the details of why we split look at my older posts in the Love forum advice.

All my clothes are still at the house and whenever I ask for something she just gives me that and nothing else. When i do see here she smiles and I do feel like she still has feelings for me.

I have beem an arse and am getting counselling, see older posts.

What I would like to ask you ladies is if I give her space, try to show here I am changing would she contemplate getting back with me?

I do not expect it to be move back stright away and all happiness, I want to woo her again and date her, something that we never really did as the firts night I met here our son was concieved.

At the begining she adored me, worshiped the ground I walked on but I did some bad things, It seems that I now adore her and she doesnt care about me.

Should I contact 1 evening just toi chat as friends and not bring our relationship up, should I leave her to contact me, should i move on totally. I do accept it is over but I know we could be happy starting form the begining again.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I know I have been an arse so please don't call me just please give honest opinions.

Thankyou in advance

[MerryH]

What I would like to ask you ladies is if I give her space, try to show here I am changing would she contemplate getting back with me?

I have no idea if she would get back together with you or not, but you should be making changes for yourself and your own well-being, not because you think it would impress her. Since you're in counseling, you acknowledge that you have some things to work on. So probably the best way to do that is to not have her in your life (or as little as possible, and only on a cordial level) for the foreseeable future.