does she love me or like me?

[next222]

Hello,

after 5 weeks I went out with this girl 3 times. She's great and I really like her. The 2nd time we went out she came back to my apartment and we made out for a while but didn't want to have sex (thats ok). The 3rd time we went out we had a great time and great conversation. In the car she kept holding my hand as I was driving and kissing it. Her body language says she is interested and at the end of the night she didn't want to come back with me. I dropped her off and she passionately kissed me for like a minute. She told me how I'm different and she always has fun. I dont know how serious she is about things. she never explicitly said anything when I told her I like her and am interested.


Particularly I never had a girl do this. What does it mean when she grabs my hand and kisses it randomly?

[smackie9]

She likes you but why have you only seen her 3 times in 5 weeks? Does she have a BF?

[next222]

We're both very busy. We had our first date but then she was playing very hard to get and I didn't get the second date until 2 weeks later. Then we made plans for the following week and she tried to reschedule them but I was busy lol. Then the following week we made plans. It is a very casual relationship but we both have so much fun together. I know she can't be in love but the whole hand thing seemed very sensual to me. It seemed very compassionate. I do want to see her more often. We went out yesteday and I tried making plans for saturday so we'll see what happens

[gal36]

I think her grabbing a hold of your hand is a sign of endearment meaning she thinks you're really sweet and you melt her heart. Sometimes people just develop a deep affection towards someone in a relatively short period of time, it could just be by being around the person, there's a certain inner click. I wouldn't do that with someone I was dating unless I felt really close to him in that moment and loved being around him.

[twinrexes]

Wow, that is unusual! And very endearing. I'd just have fun and keep going along with things, and just enjoy. Don't worry too much about analyzing the relationship. She's already told you she likes you and she thinks you're different from other guys. So you're off to a great start!

[Bo]

wayyyyy to quick for the L-word

[next222]

I went out with her again a few nights ago. We held hands and kissed (that's all we've ever done) and tonight she told me out of the blue she doesn't want a relationship. I found this odd because it was so random and I know she has feelings for me which I told her she did lol (and she agreed) and I told her I do too. I don't understand why she would say this so I challenged her and she told me she has no confidence in her self and doesn't want one and just wants to be friends.But wants to continue to hang out one on one and was trying to make plans for next week

I told her well if you like me why do you have to analyze the relationship? We enjoy spending time together and we like eachother why can't we just continue what we've been doing and she said I don't want to lead you on.

After that I drove her home, on the way home she held my hand. I told her again I don't understand where she is coming from. She told me she wants to hang out next week. I told her if it is as strictly platonic friends I'm not interested and she was like I don't know. When I got to her house I said well what if I was to kiss you the next time were together would you? She seemed unsure. I said well ok I'll kiss you now and she said thats it I'm leaving now to prove a point and gave me a hug and left. I was visibly upset but didn't say anything. I just drove away.

She texted me last night saying she understands why I reacted that way and she deserved it. She also added she didn't explain herself properly. I told her not to worry about it and we can have some more good times together. She told me all she does is worry so I told her to relax and if she wants to explain then she can.She said No its okay. Also she posted stuff on my facebook which she never does about politics because we have the same political leaning

I really care about this girl and if she is true in saying she has feelings for me why won't she go with the flow as opposed to analyzing the situation? I want to spend time with her romantically and if she has feelings for me what can I do to assure that happens again? Should I ask her about plans this week and see if she is still down?

[Boisdevie]

Sounds you are both over analysing the situation. Enjoy your time together, stop analysing the shit out of everything and go with the flow