Guys is this what you do when you're really very busy???

[girlygirl2011]

I'm seeing this really nice guy for about 2 months. Everything we do together is fun. We've been seeing each other once a week. Each time we're together it's great, and no we haven't had sex. We've made out though and its been amazing - but outside our actually dates once a week we hardly communicate because he says he's busy.

When we talk on the phone, I feel that I'm being rushed off the phone because he says he needs to go finish off some work or something. When we are together once a week, he is fully into me and gives me his undivided attention.

I know he's not seeing anyone else and I know he's really busy because of his work and kid but something just doesn't feel right. Is this normal for busy guys?

[Regnent]

You don't mention age, but you do mention a kid, and work.

Depending wether he's a balanced person, yes, this could be quite normal.

If he's responsible, and cares for his kid, then he may well be 'busy', between (I assume) taking care of his kid, which can be 1 hour to 4 or 5 a day depending on his personal involvement (even cooking and cleaning and daily life), and work, and personal time, he may not have the energy (physical or emotional) to have an more frequent dating life. He may also not be willing to sacrifice time (his or his kids) on a 'maybe'.

If he's 'yours' for the date, I would say he's not playing games, and has made a commitment to be available for that time, otherwise, he's got a involved life as is.

That's -one- view.
Could be a drunk or has 6 other dates lined up.

End of the day, I don't know about 'normal' guys, but I know my time and my personal requirements plus family requirements leaves me very little time and energy to spend frivolously. I find it challenging at times to balance it all in one package (wife/kids) let alone imagining trying to juggle it between two.

Either way, it sounds like you are a sidelines item, and that might be setting you off a bit. Doesn't mean something bad, but it does mean he's involved in his life 1st, and the dating is a secondary thing.

[girlygirl2011]

You don't mention age, but you do mention a kid, and work.

Depending wether he's a balanced person, yes, this could be quite normal.

If he's responsible, and cares for his kid, then he may well be 'busy', between (I assume) taking care of his kid, which can be 1 hour to 4 or 5 a day depending on his personal involvement (even cooking and cleaning and daily life), and work, and personal time, he may not have the energy (physical or emotional) to have an more frequent dating life. He may also not be willing to sacrifice time (his or his kids) on a 'maybe'.

If he's 'yours' for the date, I would say he's not playing games, and has made a commitment to be available for that time, otherwise, he's got a involved life as is.

That's -one- view.
Could be a drunk or has 6 other dates lined up.

End of the day, I don't know about 'normal' guys, but I know my time and my personal requirements plus family requirements leaves me very little time and energy to spend frivolously. I find it challenging at times to balance it all in one package (wife/kids) let alone imagining trying to juggle it between two.

Either way, it sounds like you are a sidelines item, and that might be setting you off a bit. Doesn't mean something bad, but it does mean he's involved in his life 1st, and the dating is a secondary thing.

He's not a drunk because he has a responsible job and has to be very sober to function and he's not a player. His kid is a teenager, so it's not like he needs to baby sit. I have a very busy life and a kid but I can manage a 30min call so it's odd to me. I definitely feel sidelined and as though he's not ready to date - my other thought was if this was a male thing?