Married 5 years. She's a total golf fanatic. She loves it. I'm not. We both knew this when we got married. I'm totally ok with her playing golf with guys she works with.
A few months ago she was sitting on the couch next to me, texting someone for over an hour. When I walked behind her, she slowly lowered her phone so I couldn't see the screen. I did manage to see a guys name. Anyway, I went online and looked at her phone records and saw daily texting. Literally everyday.
One text message from her to him was 'I'll give u a massage later'.
I was so hurt and upset. She said it was for his 'hand'.
She says she loves me and wants to make this work.
I told her I do not approve of male friends outside of work. She disagrees. We give each other the silent treatment for a couple of days.
She treats me well but we have a very fundamental, core problem.
Part of me is in denial and wants to accept it, but something inside of me tells me what she's doing is wrong. She's never once been concerned about me being upset about it, and that hurts too.
I just feel like someone is giving her something that I cannot and that really hurts me.
Thoughts?