Ok, is he into me or not?

[live4love]

Me: Divorced, single, kids
Him: Married (miserably), older kids

We are coworkers

I don't know if this guy is into me or not and I'd like the male perspective...

* First, he will hug me if he gets the chance (if no one is looking). He finds ways to end up touching my back or shoulder or whatever, but maybe he's just a physical person in general?
* I joked with him that we should go to happy hour after a meeting and his face lit up and he planned it all out and we went
* Some stranger told him "your wife is pretty" and he said "thanks" and did not correct stranger. Although, he might've been doing it to protect me from said, rather drunken, stranger??
* He tells me things that are flattering of himself like that a few women were hitting on him at his reunion or he showed me a picture of himself skiing and said "I look good huh?" (keep in mind, he's charmingly cocky in my opinion)
* He tells me "you stay in a marriage sometimes for the kids right? That's the right thing right?" like he's askin'!?
* He will not take the chance to push this further given the opportunity of time or aloneness. THat's the biggest sign that maybe he's not into me afterall????

What do you think...besides that I'm a fool to be into him??

[smackie9]

Any guy in a miserable marriage or relationship will seek other female company for comfort, but it doesn't mean a promise of a relationship. He's hurting bad and finds comfort in being around you. I feel very sorry for him. So I will go with the loneliness explanation.

[smackie9]

But that doesn't mean he's not fantasizing about you during his private time. Men just do that anyways whether they are in a loving marriage or not. They like to change things up in their head.

[Regnent]

As long as he's married, don't fall for shit.

Until he makes a decision, and ends his marriage, he's nothing but a tied down man.

If he were serious, and prepared to end his marriage, he would end it, and start looking. Being miserable and married just means he doesn't have the nuts to end it.

Unless you want to be a mistress, tell him to either fix his marriage or end it before seeking other female company.

[smackie9]

You are treading on dangerous territory. Men who step away to enjoy an affair end up going bad to the wife. So keep your distance until he removes himself from his marriage. You are not being a fool for liking him, but you will be one if you take it to the next level.

[live4love]

SO...I get what your saying...I do wonder though, based on all I've said, do you think he's just flirting or something? Do you think those things he does means he's into me on a romantic level, even if he is tied down? Does the fact that he never tries to take it to the next level even when given the opportunity mean he never would?? We were at happy hour at a place where no one knew us the other night--he could've tried something but didn't. What do you think of his behavior? Am I imagining he likes me or does his behavior say something? YOu just chalk it up to loneliness pretty much?

Thanks.