I have no idea what's going on?!

[kookies123]

[COLOR="rgb(153, 50, 204)"]Hi all, I'm new to this but I've a serious problem on my hands...

I've been great friends with this guy for almost 4 years... he always made it clear he really liked me, but at
the time I was preoccupied with other people to even give him a chance, we had a one night stand but after
that I kept my distance, just stayed friends...

Inbetween about 2 boyfriends and he'd about 2 girlfriends himself we'd go back to texting everyday and
hanging around together, everyone thought we were together, but we just loved eachothers company...
This went on until last year when he'd broken up with his gf and I was also single, we
started back texting everyday, all day, hed come visit and we'd hang out again... this went on from around June...

Inbetween this I started to like him more than I thought but I didnt want to ruin our friendship, so I set him up with
my friend at the time, I got with him one night and he said to me he wanted me and he'd choose me over her
if I'd let him , but I said no and not to say wed kissed. Then after they got together one night I realised what a mistake I'd just made... She turned out to be a pure bitch to him so I told him not to bother with her. And we got together again.

We began seeing more and more of eachother, then when I moved house, he slept over loads... we ended up sleeping together
one night and the next day he text me to say it shouldnt happen again because if he lost me as a friend he wouldnt know what to do. I said fine, it's up to you. Then it happened again...and again. At Christmas, St.Stephen's Day, we were drunken texting
and we both told eachother we loved eachother, he'd told me before but I'd never said it to him. It felt amazing but then he said
if nothing ever happened he'd still always love me. And I said, what dya mean if nothin ever happens? Then he said about the
friendship thing again... We agreed we would talk about it sober...

It's February now, we've slept together maybe twice since but no mention of what was said. He's started distancing himself
from me, hanging around with his other friends again, and he hasnt stayed in over 2 weeks... He still texts but I just can't
be bothered to reply as much anymore since I know this is going nowhere...

I feel a small bit used and hurt... I'm a very easygoing girl and this feeling is not a nice one. He asks why I'm so quiet and
did he do something wrong but I dunno what to say to him, because technically he did nothing wrong...

I know this is a huuuuge rant, but I just want to know what the hell am I supposed to do now? I've fallen for him hard,
but if he's going to leave me hanging, I don't want to be friends with him anymore? The tables turned on me and now I'm lost...

Please Help...[/COLOR]

[Charlie Boy II]

Given you've rejected him a few times in the past, it sounds like he probably thinks you're not interested in anything more than friends with benefits. Particularly if you're not being responsive to text messages etc.

You could try showing more obvious interest.

[reeba]

'It's February now, we've slept together maybe twice since but no mention of what was said. He's started distancing himself
from me, hanging around with his other friends again, and he hasnt stayed in over 2 weeks... He still texts but I just can't
be bothered to reply as much anymore since I know this is going nowhere...'

You obviously still have feelings. It is time to say it while you are sober. And don't be saying that he is 'distancing himself'. You haven't mentioned that drunk text 'i love you' either. And you are now not replying to his texts. Ever stop and put yourself in his shoes? What do you think he is reading into your actions?

Like I said, it is time to say it and talk about it while you two are sober. Stop assuming what the other is thinking, and ASK.

[Bo]

mmm, considering there was cheating from the beginning...relationships/friendships that come out of that type of situation typically don't end well.

[IncognitoSir]

So he's giving you a taste of your own medicine......how does it taste? Anyways, what do you expect, you've been leading him on for years now he doesn't feel comfortable putting himself out there like that so you can reject him again.

[xxazurexx]

I reckon he got what most young guys want...and he lost interest. Upward and onward to the next piece of skirt.