Pictures of Ex's on Walls..?

[Nairok]

Hey everyone, I'm new and I'm seeking advice.. I don't know whether I'm being too jealous/possesive or if I'm actually right..

So here's a little background..

My girlfriend and I are both 18 and I live with her and her mom and grandmother.We've been together for 16 months now. We both help pay for the heating of the house and I own my own car. I pay my own phone bill and look after my vehicle the best that I can. I constantly drive my girlfriend to and from work so that her mother doesn't have to/ so that my girlfriend doesn't have to take the car from her mother. I have no problem with this... However..

Before/during the time we got together, she was in the Sea Cadet program, in which she met two of her ex's. She doesn't really talk to one of them anymore, atleast not recently, but she has a picture of her and him posted to her room's wall. She claims that it's just memories of when she went to camp. I can live with this picture, we all have memories right?

Anyways, she has recently started texting her other ex quite a bit.. maybe.. 10-15 times a day, and she has started skyping with him, twice within a week, and she recently called him last night..while we were laying in bed together. She's also found 3 photos of her and him from when they went to camp this past summer, and she has also just put those on the wall too.

I think what bugs me the most is that she has four pictures of her and ex's on her walls, which I have to see all the time.. but she doesn't have any pictures of us hanging up.. anywhere.

This makes me feel like I'm not like the other guys, and I don't "deserve" to be on the wall (as weird as that sounds)..

However.. if it was the other way around and I had pictures of me and my ex's on the wall.. it would be "a totally different story" or that "I'm doing this to just piss her off"..

What I'd like to know is.. Is this normal? Do couples usually have pictures of themselves with Ex's on the walls, or am I just jealous? And if I am jealous.. should I be? With her talking to her ex on a daily basis now? And how can I deal with this.. dilemma?

Thank you.

[MerryH]

Normally, people take down blatant reminders of exes out of respect for their current partner. Tell her that having to look at her exes all the time makes you uncomfortable and that you're a bit hurt that she hasn't thought to put up any pictures of you. And that talking to her ex every day is inappropriate behavior for a girl in a happy, committed relationship.

[Nairok]

Thank you Merry, I'll try to bring this up tonight when I pick her up from work and see how it goes. Although, it usually ends in her saying "we're just friends. Can I not talk to my friends anymore?"

[Mr. Turtle]

I'm with you man. This is plain disrespectful and she takes a call from a guy, let alone her ex while you are laying in bed together? Hate to throw fat on the fire here but, I would start setting up for things to go downhill. If she starts hanging out with him on a consistent basis and neglecting to mention it or even invite you to come with, find a new girlfriend.

[MerryH]

If she refuses to consider your feelings, then you have more problems than her talking to her exes, and you should consider whether you still want to be with someone who doesn't respect you.

[eonbar]

I used to have pictures of my ex on my wall and I personally didn't see a problem withit at the time. However when my present GF brought it up and said she didn't like it I removed them Immediately. I think it's how she deals with what you say (ie how you want her o take them down) which you should wait for and perhaps question? In her head she's just mates with this guy and perhaps doesn't see your jealousy, so have a chat and see what happens