I am 25 have been with my 28 year old boyfriend for a total of 6 years, (we dated for 3 years, broke up for a year, and have now been back together for almost 3 years). Most of the relationship has been long distance, as I was going to school in a different state.
I just finished college last winter, and we had been living together in our hometown for a year. I was working at a production job unrelated to my degree, just to pay the bills/student loans, although I did enjoy the work. My boyfriend does carpentry work and had been feeling very unfulfilled and unappreciated with his job in our hometown, and essentially stopped working for about 3 months. With him not working and me being so tired working all the time to pay the bills, I started going out more with friends from work, and my boyfriend and I started arguing a lot.
Around that time we visited my boyfriend's sister who lives 4 hours south of us in a Very small farming town (population like 500 people). We ended up having a lot of fun that weekend, and my boyfriend got a job offer from one of his best friends and cousin, (a lot of his family lives in this town).
On a bit of a whim, we decided to move down to this town his sister lives in, and have been living in a house here for 4 months. My boyfriend really enjoys his new carpentry job, it's just he and his cousin and he makes decent money also. I have been having alot of trouble finding any work, much less any worthwhile work (something using my degree) since we have been here. I also do not enjoy living in such a small town, I feel isolated from culture and my friends. It is not somewhere that I want to live permanently.
I have just recently been offered a job at the production plant that I used to work (back in our hometown, 4 hours away). It is a higher position with more responsibilities, benefits, and higher pay. I haven't talk to my boyfriend much about it, but I know that he does not want to move back, and is against me living in our hometown without him (I could live with my parents) as he thinks it would really damage our relationship.
Right now I am working weekends at a Subway 15 miles away from where we live and my boyfriend has been talking about how buying the house we are currently renting might be a smart decision. I do not want to live in this town permanently much less buy a house. But I also love my boyfriend very much and now I don't know what to do.
I feel like if I don't accept this position I will regret it later on in life. I don't want it to be five years from now and be 30 working at subway.
Please Help Me!!! Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!