Originally Posted by
Charisma
I disagree with most of this.
She has shared her (real or made up) situation with Vincenzo when she could have just walked away and mended things for good with Craig. She hasn't.
He hasn't taken her back as a gf/lover/fiance/whatever, but offered support and help if she chooses to leave the so called abusive and controlling relationship she is in with Craig. Kudos to him for being such a supportive guy, but for some messed up reason Craig will forever distrust Amy, and also Vincenzo for turning out to be someone Amy was involved in while being with him.
I agree that she hasn't ever respected Vincenzo tho, which is a shame because Craig sounds like the a-hole. Who the hell sits texting some guy to intimidate him when it's his frigging birthday?!?! Or does hang up calls at the guy's work?!?! immature much??
Vincenzo isn't the problem here, Amy is. Amy has caused all this, and to be as frank as possible, there was never gonna be a great ending trying to lead 2 guys into being her fiance at the same time. You didn't nag Amy to come to the concert- fact. Amy decided to stay with Craig for his birthday- fact. So where the hell did Craig get this whole *stop stalking Amy* crap from, if Amy hasn't at the very least confirmed part of it?!?!?!
Craig has more motive to talk to vincenzo and stalk him even more now. He came to his doorstep and found out that Amy had another guy as a fiance too. He knows of your existence, and he'd rather have a lying cheating bitch as a gf than to have her choose you instead. Phone cloning isn't even needed for half of this stuff, only enough pressure for Amy to make up another lie. How easy it would have been for her to confess to you about Craig some time sooner, but no, and now that you both will be accusing each other, she's creating enough hate and dislike that neither of you will do the simple thing and confirm each other's stories. That's exactly what she wants. Hell, she'll have her freedom to sneak around back, because the status quo is back- more or less. She isn't getting any blame for being with the other person, or even from messing with anyone else on the side. Except from Craig, because he'll be thinking she's cheating, because he's actually stayed in the ****ed up relationship he think even existed. A little Jerry-Springer voice inside my head almost wishes that she got pregnant, to see how that bomb of a mess had turned out.
Fact is, Vincenzo has got his smart cap on. Amy's sob story would usually have made men rush in to take her back, feel sorry for her, and beat up the other guy. This is what Craig is threatening to do. She tried to have both of yous back with her, most likely so she can have both sugar daddies giving her money. Luckily it's only been Craig that's been foolish enough to do this, and now you have to get as far from this mess as possible. Unfortunately, it looks like breaking contact permanently from Amy is the only way, because as soon as you mention no contact then Craig got revved up for battle. Amy can't be the innocent in this, because if you haven't been talking to Craig for over a month, then where the hell does he get his info from???
Don't even try to confirm it all with Amy. It's a waste of your time and energy. She knows how to leave, so leave her to it. You're better than that.