This is such a hard topic to write about, because one side of me feels incredibly justified and one side of me feels incredibly selfish.
My wife and I have been married for 4 years, and we got married when both of us were in college. We made it though our last two years, both of us with our noses stuck in books, and now we're out in the "real world."
Well. My wife is not one to enjoy walking or running or working out, and in the collegiate environment, it was alright. Now, though, it seems that every time we turn around she's gained another 5 pounds and gone up in pants size and all of that. She doesn't care. There is no incentive for her to care, and frankly doing something about it is uncomfortable for her. We're married now, right? I have to accept her as she is, regardless.
I'm really skiddish about saying something, though, because she is in fact physically less and less desirable as she gains weight, but I can come across as extremely narrow-minded or pig-headed or, yes, selfish if I were to talk to her about it. In fact, I may even hurt her feelings so much so that it is irreparable or at least very hard to repair.
And then there's the whole question...do I even have a right to say something? I mean, it's 'till death do us part, and the "D"- word has never ever entered our marriage even once.
But how do I talk to her about this? I hope I am only coming across and sincere and honest, and...honestly, I really would appreciate the help.
Thanks all.