I am seeing this guy who is 8 years older than me. We both have never been in a relationship before. We go out to the cinems, go walking a lot etc. But after a year it is starting to annoy me that I don't know where I stand with him. Everyone around us assumes that we are going out together, his family call me his girlfriend. I tell people we are friends as he has never said anything different to me, we have never kissed etc. I know that he is very shy, he looks at me sometimes like no-one else ever has, but say at the end of a night and he is dropping me off he often will talk staring out the window and I take his body language to be one of looking me out of the car! We have went to weekends away and stayed in the same room, he never made any kind of move on me. I am the same, very shy and don't think I have the courage to make a move. However a few months ago I sent a text asking him what was going on, he jokinly sent back asking what the hell I was on about and was I drunk!!! He is the one for me.... but how do I play this. Do I try and back off and maybe send less texts, emails etc and wait for him. I was told by someone else that I should let him stew and not be so keen to call him or text him back. Or is it a case of waiting for the right moment and just telling him how I feel and asking him what is going on.