My boyfriend of 2 years seems too busy for me. We’re both in college with different schedules.
Before me, his longest relationship was 6 months. He’s only really ever had one real “best” friend, and that friend took advantage of him when they stopped being friends. Now, here at school he talks with people, but he does not have any true close friends. I’m the one that knows him best of everyone here on campus.
Not only are our schedules different, He’s also involved with football, cheerleading and track and field. He has an internship related to personal training, so when the football team works out together, he’s the one leading them. Since he does not participate in those workouts, he has to schedule extra workout time for him to make up.
Most practices happen early in the morning (6am), due to people having class schedule conflicts. These early wake up times means I cannot sleep over the night before (we live in the residence hall, beds are uncomfortable for 2 people and we keep tossing and turning all night). I understand the not sleeping over thing, because I want him to have as much rest as possible, I do not want him to miss out on sleep.
I’ve made one simple request that he said okay to. I told him if I can’t sleep over, I at least want a hug and a kiss good night (sometimes if we’re not tired, that hug and a kiss good night became a quickie sex session). However, he doesn’t even text me before bed anymore like he used to.
Sometimes when I email him to ask him a simple question, he’d answer. I’d sign the email with “I love you!” or “hugs and kisses”, something like that. His answer is always, “Thanks, HH”. This end of the email is what he ends every email with everyone, even professors and coaches. While he’d be “cuter” with how he answers texts/emails before, now I get the same response as everyone else.
Right now we rarely talk, and I know when Spring Break comes, we’ll be together again and have that week to catch up. When we’re not in school, we’re fine. I just want to at least feel wanted when we’re both here at school, so how could I approach this, without forcing him to pick me over anything else? I don’t want him to lose the wonderful opportunities he’s involved with, but it feels that I’m the one not wanted.
I know that he does love me, he just doesn’t show it the way that I wish he does sometimes… and I love him, so it doesn’t seem to be the way we feel about each other, more of the situation we’re currently in.
I don't want to appear clingy, but I do want to feel loved. What would you want a girl to do if she was in my position? Have any thoughts on this?