He never ask for sex?

[Runaway]

My fiance and I live together, we've been together for over 3 1/2 years. We're very close great relationship, laugh, love and I know he's not cheating. We've both been faithful always. No he's not gay. (Guess you can tell I've asked this question before and go tthe whole "He's a cheater" or "He's a gay!" and I know he's not either)

We'll he never ask me to have sex, I know right? A guy being a gentle man? Well whenever I want it I have to ask and he's up for it, happy , excited and ready to get it on. Ok so my issue isn't that huge but It bothers me that he doesn't ASK ME! EVER! So I confronted him about this and he says he has no good reason to NOT wanting to ask me he just doesn't, at first he said he was shy but it's 3 years later he's not shy. so we have a long talk AGAIN and since that talk (About a month 1/2 ago) we've done it once, and even then he didn't really even romanticly or really ask. Our anniversary went by, nothing sexually. He's not a really party person we spend our time together always, he goes to work and comes home I know he's not cheating ........But I am really getting tired of being the man in the relationship and always having to ask. It's getting to the point where I could care less. And that will only get worse....please give me advice? Remember I've had a huge talk with him already, what could be next? And please don't suggest withholding because you all know that could go on a year probably LOL OMG i'm about to knock him out!! Thanks lol

[therealjag]

maybe you need to introduce aphrodesiacs into his diet to increase libido?

[Bonfire]

I would love to see you knock him out. LOL Maybe it might turn him on. The only thing I can think of is switch the way you look around a bit. Try different styles of clothing, sexier more provocative styles. Try different hair styles and makeup. Not sure if this is needed and don't be offended, do you need to lose any weight? And maybe go out on dates with him more often to rekindle that passion? And perhaps even flirt with other men in front of him so he might get a bit jealous and value what he has. Does he have any fantasies? You should explore his sexual mind by asking him sexual questions and perhaps he'll awaken that libido of his. If nothing works, maybe Viagra in his coffee? LOL

[Ric]

Does this lack of effort extend to different areas or just the sex part?

[girl68]

You could suggest couples sex therapy... he'll likely resist BUT, he might also realize just how much this affects you.

[Take2]

I had the same problem with my ex. It turned out that he just really prefers a woman who is sexually aggressive. I prefer a man who is sexually aggressive. It was a mismatch. If everything else had stayed good and we had had an open communication style in our relationship, I guess we could have overcome that issue. But it contributed to the overall decline. We both felt sexually unfulfilled and neglected.

Now I am with a guy who doesn't mind being the sexual aggressor sometimes. Which makes me happy to be the sexual aggressor sometimes. I will never again date someone who doesn't initiate sex at least some of the time. It's not fair.

[reeba]

How long have you been living together? Maybe the spark has fizzled out already. What I mean is you two are already in the old married couple phase.