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    I love her, but can't make something happen.

    Hey.
    I recently fell in love with this girl, but unfortunately i can't make something happen. She doesn't like me, she doesn't talk to me, she barely salutes me.
    Now i am sad as f@*& , me usually being known as the happy guy, and nobody knows why... and i won't tell them who i love because she is way to good for me and they will probably be like "No s#%, seriously?".
    Now to my point, how do i get rid of this depression, basically stop loving her?
    Those sleepless nights, lack of interes in fun and sudden hearbeat when she walks near me are killing me.
    Halp pl0xx.
    Thanks!

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    If she doesn't like you, then why do you love her? Is she an ex? If she isn't, you get over your "love" by realizing you DON'T love her... You don't know her! You two have not built any kind of relationship. You are in love with her appearance and with an illusion of who she is as a person.

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    First, have you actually tried to get in contact with her? Tried to talk to her? Did that with some confidence? Has she said she doesn't like you?
    If you don't make a move it will be easy for her to not acknowledge you. And if you come to her thinking you're going to be rejected and showing that, you're likely going to be rejected.

    If you already did the above, you need to get over yourself. Sound harsh, but there's no point in pursuing and being miserable over something that's not going to happen. Start be happy again, forget about her and you'll eventually meet a new girl that will make you feel that way.

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    If she doesn't like you, then why do you love her? - Ahm, i think i am not the only one who loves and is not loved back. She doesn't have to love me in order for me to love her.
    Is she an ex? - nope
    if she isn't, you get over your "love" by realizing you DON'T love her... You don't know her! You two have not built any kind of relationship. You are in love with her appearance and with an illusion of who she is as a person. - This phrase blew my mind... but still! Yes, i can easily say i don't know her. And i think that i am right when i say that it takes a whole lot of time to truly know a person. But what she likes, the kind of people she goes along, what she hates... hell... even some of her flaws are the same as mine. I have always been diffrent and unexpected, she has a fixation about originality.

    I will reply to Ric tommorrow, right now is pretty late.
    Thanks for your feedback so far.

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    Stop falling in love with or should I say obsessing over girls you are not even in a relationship with. Love is to be a step or a next level you take when you are dating someone. This pattern has to stop and you can start by stop being "a friend" to a giirl you want to date. You find a girl that is attractive to you, you ask them out. they say no, then you just saving yourself the heartache that you are experiencing now. If you don't get a grip and change your behaviour you will be that lonely creepy guy no girl wants to date.

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    I think you are just infatuated or in love with the idea of her not so much in love with her. Hope this helps buddy!

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