Where do you think this is going?

[Ric]

Follow up from my previous post: [URL="http://www.loveforum.net/ask-female-forum/50876-would-you-want-know-if-friend-has-crush-you-if-youre-taken.html"]http://www.loveforum.net/ask-female-forum/50876-would-you-want-know-if-friend-has-crush-you-if-youre-taken.htm[/URL]l (had an update there already as wel, for those that have not read it.)

Anyway, basics is that now I've admitted my feelings for her we've had a lot more contact and she seems to go more out of her way to spend time with me.
She hasn't admitted any romantic feelings for me yet, but she does do things like saying what a cute smile I have and that I have pretty eyes.

I'm not a blindly in love person, though. Things with her and her boyfriend aren't going well. As I said before, she doesn't get the attention from him she wants and she has told me that she is giving up and it's his turn to try now. He hardly makes time for her an all, and to me it seems like it's on its way out.
She enjoys me having a big crush on her, and I know this is partially because she gets attention from me she doesn't get from her boyfriend. But whether that's the only reason I don't think so, but could be.
She enjoys the attention and I clearly make her blush at times. She also said her jaw is hurting because I make her smile so much.

She jokes around about my feelings, like taking my surname for a joke. I joke around back. The mention of a potential future between us doesn't make her feel awkward. She doesn't go deep into it, but she doesn't avoid the subject either.



I ain't going to overly pursue here as long as she's with her boyfriend, though. Best is to just wait and see what happens and when it's done to make a move. So in that regard this thread is useless.

However, I do like to know what you girls think? Think she is just playing games or there is more to it?

[girl68]

She's going for you because somethings missing. You should encourage her to re-think her current situation. Have some morals proceed when she's single. If she "can't" break up with him it's gonna get ugly and get ugly real fast.

[Ric]

Yeah, I know part of her seeming interest is because of what she is missing in her actual relationship.
I'm not sure what to do at this point. Part of me thinks she is trying to get me to get her to break up. Maybe making sure I want to be with her before doing so.

There's been quite a few instances in which she initiated talk about my feelings for her, trying to get me to tell her how deep my feelings run. Could be just fishing for compliments, though she has no need to try, could be that it's more.
It seems possible to me that she wants me to declare my love for her and ask her to go out with her

At one point she was saying how she'll likely end up alone and I told her there's always me she said I'll likely forget about her soon.
I said that won't happen, but everything will be fine between her and her boyfriend and she'll leave me forgotten.
To that she responded with "Well, I'll tell you this... I don't want to be with anyone that doesn't want to get married."

But while the idea that she wants me to make a real move is there, I know it is a very real possibility that it is just a hopeful thought.
Besides that, I'm awkward with telling her to break up with him. I do encourage her to rethink her situation, to think how a future without changes would be and all. But I don't think it's my place to say she should dump him, unless he turns into a serious jackass. Even though at times it seems she wants me to say just that.

Last night she said "I don't want to break up with him, I still find him very attractive... well, not very maybe but attractive still, and I still do see the potential in him"

So yeah, not too sure what to think about it all. For now I guess it smart to not come on strongly and not stand in her way when it comes to trying to fix the relationship with her boyfriend.