Hello!
The post I'm about to write talks about the last three months of my life. Very intense months. So I think it's going to be a bit long. Sorry for that.
So, here's the introduction. We've met in December 2010. Before the formal introduction we had a mutual friend. She liked me, I liked her and we used to bump into each other here and there. She's 27, I'm 21. From the beginning of December, till the Christmas, we went out a couple of times with a few of mutual friends. We've always joked about our mutual attraction and age difference, "knowing" that we'll never be a couple or anything like that. On Christmas, we've kissed for the first time. A week later, on New Year's Eve, we talked a little, flirted a little, she mentioned she was a bit ashamed for what we did, cause of my age. But still, things just went on. We were going out together every weekend, with the same group of mutual friends (important thing, the male friend that introduced us is in love with her, she knows it and has told him that he's just a friend to her, but we still tried to keep our "affair" a secret because of him), we used every moment we could to kiss. We never met alone, cause it was just a physical attraction with a 6 years of age difference.
But till the end of January we became really close. We used to go home every weekend together, we talked a lot, found out we have similar taste in everything, and the chemistry between us grew. We "knew" we could never make it as a couple because of the age difference and for some reason, we always reminded ourselves of that. Other than not being together, we functioned like a real couple. when we couldn't see each other, we exchanged 15-20 sms daily, or very long and meaningful messages on fb. We slept for the first time around the beginning of February. The sex was great, and it seemed that we clicked on every level of connection we had. AT that point, we already knew for sure that the age difference kinda disappeared. Even the jokes have changed. Now she is the "younger one". A week after that first sex, we talked about our future for the first time. There was a lot of complimenting on each side, but the most important thing that she said was that she couldn't fall in love with someone completely because a guy she had to break up with about two years ago. And she didn't want to hurt me by giving me false hope that we could make it as a couple. From that point, we put a stop on every physical contact.
We "became" friends. That was a bit hard for me, cause I fell in love with her like crazy. The good thing was that we mean a lot to each other already, in these short few months, so I didn't look at her like someone I can't be with, but as a great friend. Although I never stopped feeling that I'm in love with her. Last Saturday she saw me with my cousin. Later that evening she confirmed what she said before. Even if we can't be together, she'd feel sad if she saw me with someone else (she said that before I explained that was my cousin). On Tuesday we talked again, again reminding ourselves why we can't be together. On Friday, she worked the night shift, and we spent 3 hours sending text messages. We talked about relationships. She told me her best friend thought that I was the guy that would never hurt her. She asked me if I can sail a ship, or let it float (ship being a relationship). To my answer she replied: "I can't wait to lose my head " (meaning - to fall in love, I'm not sure if the expression is the same in English) Yesterday night we went out together with friends. She asked me to dance a couple of times, hugged me all the time, used every opportunity to kiss me on the cheek or forehead, and touched me. We joked about having children, decided we'll have 3. That joke lasted for about 10 minutes. After that, we spent the entire evening deciding on the names of the kids. We were joking about that, but you don't think about naming your kids with someone for 5 hours for no reason. We couldn't be alone the entire evening, but every time we were close we just looked each other in the eye and smiled instantly, kissing on occasion, hugging at will and touching when no-one could see. Walking from bar to bar, she hold my hand every time, stood very close behind me in crowded places and leaning on my chest with her back as she would talk to people. Today we didn't see each other, and she said she'd had a family for the whole Sunday at her place, so I didn't hear from her yet today. Considering it's Monday in Croatia, I didn't hear from her at all.
I'm pretty confused by all this, and for the first time in my life, I'm kinda scared of forcing anything to happen between us, because as I said already - I fell in love with her, but we also became incredibly close in a short time. And I'm really scared of risking all of that by pushing her. Should I accept her game, if that is what that is, or accept the fact that she needs time? I'm clueless here, so any piece of advice is more than welcome!