NC in guyland

[pisces25]

Hi guys,
Just want your thoughts/opinions on something. My ex and I broke up a few weeks back, messy situation he is now in therapy sorting his issues out. Doesn't want to close the door completely as he may sort these issues in which case he'd be happy to resume the relationship. I am trying my best to move on and at this point view the relationship as over, I can't operate just clinging on to something that may or may not be.
In the few weeks we have been split up I have had to contact him to get stuff from his house and other practical matters. I always keep my txts short and to the point and don't ask questions whereas he will always put a question on the end of his text (how are your folks, what did you do today ? etc) prompting me to have to respond therefore a lengthy exchange ensues. There were a few days we didn't have any contact until I had to ask him about tickets we had booked. Now I am back to the NC thing, for my own sanity. He hasn't contacted me (like he didnt those few days last week) and I am wondering is this a sign he has decided it truly is over or could there be another reason? We had a pretty good relationship and cared about each other a lot, I suppose I just don't know if his lack of contact means he is taking space to sort himself out or if he has decided that door isn't open after all? What are your main reasons for not contacting someone after a mutal but seemingly unresolved break-up. Don't get me wrong it is probably better he isn't contacting me just wondering what could be going through his head about the situation.
Thanks for any input

[bubabalo]

Hi pisces25

I think the fact he haven't contact you it isn't a good sign. It means he has no desire or urge to contact you.
You said he doesn't want close the door what makes you think that?

[xxazurexx]

What are your main reasons for not contacting someone after a mutal but seemingly unresolved break-up.

He isn't missing you.

[sweetkissesforu]

he is moving on also or waiting for you to contact him

[smackie9]

There will never be a direct answer from a bunch of strangers on the Internet. I know you need closure so you can move on, but sometimes you never will. Give it a few more weeks because it's still too early even for him and his "sorting out". If you do want to try again with him, then give him more time, but don't let it stop you from living your life.

[pisces25]

BB- He told me the door wasnt closed but don't keep my hopes up in case he can't sort himself out. Anyway he did contact me last night which has now just made me even more confused. I am still sticking with NC from my side though. I think it may be a while before I hear from him now.
Smackie - agree I won't really get a clear indication from here just wanted to know guys thoughts coz IMO guys are better at not breaking the NC thing than girls are (in my experience) so just wondering why this may be. Why they can seem to just switch emotions off. Wish I could do that!!

[xxazurexx]

In my experience it's always been the guys that contacted me after it ended. I 'never' pursue after a breakup. I'd rather eat shit....

The only time anyone can switch off emotions, is if they think 'nothing' of you.

[bubabalo]

why did he contacted you last night? Stick to NC for you that's what I'm doing.