Please please help me out.
I am a 29 year old woman who is recently out of a 5 year relationship.
I've since become incredibly attracted to a 35 year old man who got out of a really manipulative 2 year long relationship about 2 months ago. He also comes from a broken home, where his mom used to use the kids and tell them horrible things about their father in an attempt to turn them against him. He understandably is not ready to hop right back into an exclusive relationship, and I don't really have a problem with that.
When we are together he is really sweet. He will sit on the couch and he will hold me so close and kiss me. When we talk we have some of the most deep conversations, but then we can turn around and be really goofy, or turn on the heat and have some really hot talk. It is exactly what I am looking for right now.
Here is the part that confuses me. He doesn't text/call. He will wait for me to. And the part that really makes me question things is that while he says that he is a very sexual person (like multiple times a day sexual), he has passed up several invitations to come over and get it on. Including one invite that went something like this "I really want to reenact this dream I had the other night where I had your dick in my mouth". Guys don't say no to that do they???
He swears that he likes me and loves the sex (which I would believe because of the way that he acts during the sex... and the "my god your good at that" comment after a little oral action) But if that is the case wouldn't he want to get it whenever he can? Wouldn't he want to take me up on the commitment free offers to hang out?
It just hurts so badly because I am so into him, and I feel this amazing draw to him that I have never felt before and he seems to have a "I can take it or leave it" approach to me.
Should I just cut my losses and get out before I get completely crushed?