If you can, seek therapy and post here... Anonymous message forums are really nice for venting and getting support. This guy has a lot of the classic symptoms of an abusive... He's manipulative, he's cut you off from all other forms of support, he doesn't take any responsibility and he seeks to control you. It's gonna be rough going for a while getting rid of him, but you MUST. Think of this: what if you stayed with him, and had a daughter. And the daughter acted like you.... and he treated her the way he treated you. How would that make you feel? Watching him treat your daughter, who you know is a sweet heart and a lovely girl, like that? Cause abusive guys like this... It's never enough to just abuse one person. He'll turn that behavior on your children, and he'll turn THEM into zombies... Is that what you desire?