Originally Posted by
neelym2011
I have some questions for you all. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months almost 8 and I honestly think he's the one. I love him more than anything in the whole world. He's the sweetest guy Ive ever met. He treats me really good and makes me extremely happy. We want to take our relationship to the next level and see where it goes. We've talked about getting a place together for the past couple months but the only problem is my mom. She doesnt approve of it because she doesnt believe in living together before marriage. Ive tried to talk to her about it numerous times and all but I get the same response. I just dont know what to do. If you were in this situation what would you do?!
My Questions Are
1. When is too soon to move in with your spouse?!
2. Do you think it's wrong to move in before being engaged or married?
3. Is it true that you wont really know who a person truly is unless you live with them on a daily basis?
4. How long did you wait before you moved in with your special someone?
1. He's not your spouse. He's your boyfriend.
2. I don't think it's wrong, but I think it's stupid.
3. Only if you are incredibly unobservant and insist on living in denial when you see signs of less-than-attractive behavior.
4. Not long enough.
Listen, I don't personally believe it is morally wrong to live with someone without being married, but I don't see any reason to skip past the bf/gf stage. You have the rest of your lives to live like old married people. Living with someone makes them behave less like a BF and more like a spouse (or a child), and you will likely end up acting more like a momma than a girlfriend. I think you should enjoy the stage you are in now, and put off anything more for as long as you can.
As for not being able to get to know someone unless you live with them, bullshit. Unless you aren't spending the night with one another on a regular basis, you can see whether he's a slob or not, how careful he is with his money, how willing he is to help you get things done, if he's lazy, how he argues, etc. It isn't rocket science.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?