Need advice

[vitalsigns]

Hi I need to vent and I need some advice. Sorry for the long post.

I'm 26 and my ex-girlfriend is 24 years old.
We have been together for two years. When we met, we instantly clicked and were great together. We both love each other immensly and talked about marrige and everything. She lived an hour away though and ran her own business. She would come stay with me on the weekends and half the week. After about a year and half she finally got her own place for the business, which was in the same town an hour away from me. We would only see each other on the weekends and we were both lonely from not seeing each other often enough. I tried getting a job where she lived so we could get a place together but I didnt have any luck.

Well about a month ago, we got into an argument and she was treating me pretty horribly and then I found out she was talking to her ex behind my back and I go upset and told her I needed space. The space didn't last because she kept txting me and then we got into more fights and we needed more space, but we kept in contact and things kept getting worse. About two weeks ago I started breaking down every night, and crying. hurting. I couldnt get her attention. She says I wasnt open enough with her but when I tried she wasnt there for me. I decided I really needed to stop all contact with her but after a week she called me up and told me how much she missed me and I caved in and went and saw her (this past thursday). Well things went great, we went out, had fun, drank and went back to her place but then I just had a sudden bad feeling and wasnt sure if what we were doing was right, but we had a nice long talk.

Friday came and we talked and were txting but she stopped responding to me so I figured I'd let it be. For some reason I broke down and cried all Friday night. Saturday came and I felt the same, cried and everything. She never contacted me. Saturday night I called her and txt her twice and nothing. So I got drunk and ended up txting her saying **** you, you broke my heart, come get your stuff. I regret it all, she called me and I raised my voice and got really verbally abusive with her. Yesterday she called and we talked and she broke up with me, saying she had no choice, because I put her in a corner.

Right now I'm a mess. I don't want to lose her. I love her and I know she loves me. I just want to fix everything but I don't know how. I need some advice on whether things can be fixed and if so how.

[Bonfire]

This is a tough one. The way it ended was pretty serious and I doubt she will let it go that easily. But you were not completely wrong although you did overreacted, can't blame you since were very vulnerable and emotional at that point. How she treated you toward the end of the relationship is very suspicious. Txting her ex and not replying to your contact is not good signs. I know you love her but perhaps you might be better off without her? The relationships sounds like it simply ran out its course. If you want her back, all you can do now is apologize to her in how it ended and then just suggest you two be friends, don't beg her to come back because that just pushes her further away. So just let her go and let her have time to clear her mind and if she truly loves you, eventually she'll miss you enough to consider another chance. As long as you two are still in good terms, that option is available. For now, pick yourself up. Be strong and control your emotions better next time. Girls don't like guys who are too emotional, it's a sign of weakness and girls are attracted to strength. So just act like you are moving on, although I do recommend you do so as there is plenty of quality fish in the sea.

[devonbrown]

I am not understanding why you want to make things better now. You were a wreck and crying for two straight days. I understand being upset, and I agree that you probably overreacted to the situation, but you weren't happy and were looking to her to make things better. She made the decision to part ways at this point. She did what you asked her to do - to make it better. It doesn't seem better now, but it may be in the long run.

Just another way to view it.

Good luck.