mixed messages

[Azure1]

so girls, theres this girl ive been like deeply in love with for three years, im slowly becoming one of her best friends but i want more than that. but shes giving mixed signals. one day she'll give me the cold shoulder, the next she'll want to sit by me, talk to me all through class, hug me, tease me (in a nice playful sort of way), and all this other nice stuff. ive made it quite obvious that i like her even without saying anything, and is this just a sign of "forever friend zone" or should i try to ask her out. and if so how should i ask her out? im like the shyest guy in the world, not very manly, and i tend to keep to myself (other than around her) so yea im really confused and any advice is appreciated

[bloodtippedrose]

Oh man Azure.. I have got to tell you...

Two friends liked me when I was in high school. One guy was a timid and very intelligent religious freak. I teased him and flirted with him and loved to pet his nice hair but if he asked me to date him I would have said no. Not that I didnt like him but he was so reserved and shy.. It would be like dating a chick..
Another friend was cute and timid and I casually flirted with him, he always agreed with me and hated confrontation. I said no to him when he asked me out... several times. When his current navy buddies asked me why I told them he's not the kind of guy that can throw me up against a wall (if u know what i mean). I want to date a MAN not a boy, and they were so damn timid, they were boys. They were both incredible, intelligent, funny and cute too but their great shyness really put me off. It's been four years since and the first guy is still timid as hell and he is struggling to get a gf. The second guy learned from what I told him and came out of his shell, and is now dating a beautiful Japanese girl. I know I seem like a cruel bitch but I just don't want to see your girl say no just because you're so reserved.

I would suggest you focus on gaining confidence and being a little more extrovert before you ask her out. Not to change completely mind you, but just be able to stand up for yourself.

[Azure1]

u didnt sound like a bitch,in fact that was really something i think i needed to hear, thanks