What should I do?

[jb1111983]

Some background. She's from Iran while I New Zealand. We both turned 28 last January. She came to do a 3 month internship with us. We clicked well as friends right from the start. After a month I realised I liked her and wanted us to be more than friends. I love almost everything about her. Took me another month to finally ask her out. She said she considers me only a friend like a brother. Took me 2 weeks to gain her trust again. She had less than 3 weeks left. I tried to make every single day special for her. She noticed. I was the first to greet her on her birthday. Four days later she was the first on my birthday. I noticed that she no longer said I was a friend just like a brother anymore which she used to. And she no longer resisted when I showed her affection. She began to like it and I felt encouraged. She also started to flirt back. We had some amazing moments. But I was afraid to bring up the subject again. A day before her departure I was to leave for another city for a conference. I didn't get in the plane so I could spend one more day with her. When I told her this she just smiled and looked deep into my eyes. We kept staring at each other with no words for another 3-4 minutes. The next day at the airport she told me a lot about her family and how important her parents are to her. Then she asked me if her future husband will be caring towards her parents. And I said yes everything that matters to you will begin to matter to him because he loves you. And she was like "really? No one has ever said that to me before". I told her I'll visit her in Iran. She said I will be welcomed.
Now 2 months later we remain in touch mostly via emails. Mostly normal friendly stuff. I sometimes tell her I miss her. She never says I miss you. She only says she misses the times we had together. I understand it's very hard for her to be with me even if she would like to. She is muslim (though not very religious and hates her Government policies) and Islam clearly says that a muslim woman can't marry a non muslim man unless the man converts. Don't think I'll do that. Anyway I'd like to know if you think she has feelings for me. And what do you suggest I do in this situation? I love her a lot and I don't want to forever wonder what if! Please help. Sorry it's super long. Thanks for reading

[Bonfire]

Why don't you ask her in your next email how she feels about you? You have nothing to lose at this point. I don't think there is a future here. She is in Iran. You are not going to move there and convert. Even if you did, I am not sure if her parents would accept. They probably already have someone in mind to be their son in law. I'm sorry but you might just have to let this one go. It's just not meant to be.

[jb1111983]

Thanks Bonfire. Maybe you are right. I may have to let go her although I still think I should go see her in Iran at least once. Maybe then I will ask her how she feels about me. But maybe there is no future with her. I still have some hope though.

I really wish I could feel the same way for another girl who lives here. But I don't, like they don't mean a thing even though I think we have some of the most beautiful women in NZ. I'm confused.

[jb1111983]

She messaged me this morning after seeing a photo of me and my ex on facebook. She wrote:
James, saw your pic on fb with V. You two look great together. So u getting back with her? She's beautiful. but don't let her break your heart again.
S

Call me crazy but I've been wondering if her message suggests something. But I really don't know.

And yes I met my ex at a party had some drinks together but nothing else. We broke up a year ago and had no contact for 8 months. I got over her long time back. I know I probably don't have a good chance with S with the distance and cultural difference thing and all. But I do love this Persian girl a lot. And I don't want her to think I'm getting back with my ex or dating other girls because I'm not. I don't mind deleting my ex from fb and having no contact with her because she doesn't mean much to me anymore. She's my past and that's it. I haven't replied to S yet. We have a skype on Friday. Any thought/ suggestion/ advice will be much appreciated. Thanks.

[steviej]

Be bold and ask her how she feels. As already said, you have nothing to lose because right now she is lost anyway. It's a pipe dream with this girl sadly, but you need to know, so ask her!
But, unless she's willing to move to nz (sounds like she isn't) then what's the point? This will go nowhere.

[jb1111983]

Thanks! I think I'll do that when we skype. Yup nothing to lose.