Need advice bad .........help

[confused02]

Ok first of all I am 21, well i went on like 5 or 6 dates with a 18 year old girl i didnt think it was going that bad she was texting me everyday and whatnot so i thought she was pretty interested. Well the last time she was with me we were at my house and it started with kissing and we almost had sex. I stopped myself because i wasnt sure if she was ready, before i started I told her "all you have to do is stop me if your uncomfortable" well i really dont think she was going to . Well i was getting the vibe to stop anyways i didnt want to rush things thats pretty much what i told her. Well three days past by and she didnt text me but when i texted her she would text right back. So finally today i asked her what was goin on in a polite way i asked her if it had anything to do with that night and she said no. She said i was a nice guy but the age difference was a big thing. Well i ended up calling her and asked her if she wanted to give it another shot. We went out again and it didnt go that great she blew me off twice after that this go around I was just tryin to sleep with her because i thought that was what she wanted. i invited her over to watch movies and she didnt want to she said she didnt feel like movies. I finially asked her if she was looking for anything serious and she said no. I told her I was cool with that all she had to do was tell me she sent me mixed messages. Well it went on and on i told her i wasnt looking for serious and asked if she wanted to hang out. She said we could hang out as friends so i thought she was leaning towards **** buddy so I asked her if she was physically attracted to me and she said no that kinda shut me down. idk what to think i asked her why she went back out with me and she said "it was sort of a final date thing i guess, i thought we were going to talk about why we broke up". Well at this point i kinda gave up i was like "just tell me somethin and be honest were you looking for fun or someone to date" she said someone to date. Should i let this be or straight ask her is she wants to hookup?

[JBELL]

She doesn't sound worth your thoughts, if you had of slept with her she probably would still be doing this to you, its a loose loose situation just remember for next time though stopping and checking she's ok is good and even stopping cause you don't want to presure a girl but don't txt and call heaps either make her chase you for a little weirdly girls freak out when boys ignore them but when they have them there all the time knowing they will be there we take advantage of that.

You'll be ok you sound like a good guy!!

[confused02]

Alright thanks I give up for now I guess. Maybe way later I will try talking to her again on facebook or something. I just feel like a failure on this one, the girl was so quiet i really could not tell what she wanted that's why I stopped. I even gave her the hint in a txt and told her I wasn't necessarily looking for anything serious and I was just trying to respect her. Guys are the way they are for a reason this is definitely going to change how I approach things.

[gigigi4]

i think you might have misread some situations here- when she said she wanted to hang out as friends, to me, that does not indicate f***buddy, and i don't really understand why you still seem to think she wants to hook up- she clearly feels that the relationship, or whatever it was, is over.

[gigigi4]

also, it sounds to me like maybe she was really inexperienced and that's why she didn't stop you or communicate well regarding her intentions, and also why she mentioned the age difference between you...idk, i'm just guessing this though

[MrE]

Sounds like she probably lost interest for whatever reason. Maybe she feels uncomfortable with the 'hot' encounter you guys had. The age thing is just an excuse because you are only 3 years apart and you are both of age. I'm betting she just feels weird about the situation and she's trying to diffuse the whole relationship.

[confused02]

also, it sounds to me like maybe she was really inexperienced and that's why she didn't stop you or communicate well regarding her intentions, and also why she mentioned the age difference between you...idk, i'm just guessing this though

I would of thought she was inexperienced but she wasn't nervous at all. I was nervous as hell and she wasn't