Protecting Himself

[JBELL]

Hey

My boyfriend has been hurt before and is now extremely insecure what can i do or say to change this?

Also why do guys say hurtful things to girls and we get upset and then you guys blame us for being too sensative or complicated i'm not saying we aren't cause half the time we don't even know whats going on with our emotions but don't you realise that if you hadn't said that comment in the first place i would have never felt like that and i wouldn't be in a bad mood right now!

Cheers!!

[Yet another guy]

In general, us guys don't say hurtful things to girls. I never do (except maybe I did say something nasty to someone once when I was in elementary school).

Perhaps you are genaralizing about something specific. What did he say?

[blinki]

learn to write in sentences. that's what you can do.

[JBELL]

Blinki was at work in a rush!!

Yet another guy - He will tell me that i'm paranoid, he once said to me as a joke that i should go to the gym so that we could weigh the same, yesterday as a joke he told me to buy him clothes and when i got annoyed he told me that i would be perfect for his friend.

This isn't big stuff but when you have to hear it every single day i get bored of it and its not fun being the butt of his jokes!

[bloodtippedrose]

Wow I joke around alot even mean jokes but nothing disrespectful like that. Instead of getting mad and throwing a fit you need to explain to him how those jokes make you feel. Unappreciated, unattractive, childish etc. If he doesn't want to listen or make an effort to change then you need to dump his ass stat.

[puzzluzz]

they want sex from others