Originally Posted by
imagineallthe
A guy I like asked me out a few times and I turned him down, now we don't really talk anymore. There's no hard feelings, none of us admitted to anything, we were just friends. I don't think he hangs out a lot with girls and he's in his room a lot. I fell completely for the nerdy-feeling he gave. I think about him everyday, it makes me happy. I literally can't stop smiling! Why did I turn him down? I didn't dare to hang out! I'm not really a shy girl, but I simply didn't dare to. It's all these insecurites about
: what if he finds me boring, et. I hardly ever fall in love, so when I do - I do my best to not feel rejected.
Girls play hard to get because it makes them feel wanted; they know you'll be thinking about them and be intruiged. I gave up on that game years ago, it's kind of a shallow way to meet. If you like someone, just be up front and don't stop texting or whatever. Don't overshower with compliments, but don't quit either. People stress so much about this, the reason I fell for that guy in the first place was because he didn't act like a dude looking for sex. He was funny, independent and dorky. My point: I'm in love with him - yet turn him down just because I'm insecure. So people act weird for all kinds of reasons
You just opened my eyes. I have this girl at college that I admire/like and I think she might be going through the things as you! Holy cow.. It almost fits like a puzzle. God sent.. OK, well I'm a guy not looking for sex either. I really want to find a soul mate or get to know her better. I am independent and perhaps dorky I'm not sure but, being independent maybe. She even showed interest in me the classes we were in. I also wanted to be friends! I felt a spark. Even as shy as I was I manned up to her. Maybe didn't go perfect but, I did what I could. I'm also afraid of rejection, but I put my fears aside. And I agree that game "hard to get" is pathetic. It makes it hard for both genders.
I have questions, if you liked him and thought about him so and so days, why couldn't you stop smiling even after you turned him down? Were you actually happy you turned down a guy you were interested in? What on earth is going on I don't get it! My head is going to explode. Why not give him a chance? Or did you already know him for a while that you put him off? And what advice do you have for me. I think I am in a similar situation right now. I'm playing the waiting game right now with this new girl I met. Its been over a week and now I feel she did like me but, is going to bail or forget me perhaps because she thinks I'm too good for her. But, I want to be there for her! Even as friends.. not sure if coming on too strong telling her how I feel is a good idea.
Originally Posted by
girl68
I tend to act different to a guy I like. So if I'm flirty with other boys but to you I'm kind of shy I like YOU, not the other guys. Or sometimes I will avoid other guys but sit next to you at the table.
I'd also try to get your attention on me.
This girl did the exact same thing. She decided to sit right in front of me in class! WOW, what is going on. Am I nuts, delusional or perhaps those were correct signs of girl showing interest? That is so weird.. :S If the girl I like now is insecure is probably the reason she is ignoring me now.. makes sense.
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