Okay I have been in a bad situation yesterday. And wonder if it's the guys's fault or mine. My friends said it was his fault, but I feel guilty for this.
There was a guy added me on Fb some months ago, he wrote me n stuff n since I saw he wasn't my type- the look( he look rough and I'm not going to be unpolite but looks old for his age), he's already older than me 10 years. I'm 26 n he is 36 n the rough look made it worse, in any case I don't want a relationship now either, because I still miss my ex, which won't be nice to anyone. I want to be totally over my ex before get to another relationship.
And he's from Canada, he wrote me to say about visiting, I didn't reply or just said something like what r you doing around here? He said for meeting me, well.,, okay I didn't reply.
Then he catches me while I was online on facebook, i kept telling I still miss my ex, omg I think this is big turn off for guys? Then I kept talking about ex n ex, he said he wanted to have a chance n still I showed no interest, but my biggest mistake was not saying no right away, just I said no with a few good looking guy before that, I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I thought he was joking for coming to Another country just to meet someone he doesn't know about but just the Look.
He came, omg I was shocked, I thought this only happens to young teenage boys? He's probably because of my look coz he said I look even prettier in real... Then I met him once yesterday- Polite. My friend was sitting there with me n we didn't feel comfortable, I really showed my annoying face I admit, coz I didn't hope that meeting, my friend said he looked really old n he must be lie aboit his age, I dunno.
Today, I texted him saying that I can show him around but friends is maximum, and he was mad saying like he didn't come all that way n waste money to come just for being friends, plus he thought I was rude coz I talked loudly, and my facial actions showed my disappointedment, I don't Refuse that n said he looked same as pics So I have no reason for hopeless. And I talked loudly coz the music was so big n can't hear what he said OMG.
I feel bad, he said there r no friendship between F n M plus I was rude to him. And what is he doing!? Pursue me due to my look. I really don't want to hurt anyone,I have been hurted like hell after broken up n I wanna be straight to clear up any hopes, I don't like guys that older than me 10+, is it that I did bad? I should of refuse by saying no instead of being polite, in my head I thought he was joking as it was a dumb decision to meet someone who doesn't show interest In you, but I still feel guilty that he's around here alone n he's now refuse friendship. I just feel Bad, man. Was I wrong?
"AS I WALKED OVER TO U, UR FACIAL EXPRESSION, SPOKE LOUDLY,,, U WERE VERY DISAPPOINTED.. I WASNT WHAT UD HOPED (physically), THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHEMISTRY.. U JUDGED ME AND DIDNT LIKE ME RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT... WHEN ONE SIDE HAS ALREADY MADE THRER DECISION, CHEMISTRY, CANT HAPPEN. UR DECISION WAS SUPERFICIAL.. IT WAS 100% based on physical...BUT, IT IS WHAT IT IS, IT DOESNT MATTER" this is one of his text.