Need help with the relationship...

[NormalGuy]

First of all, Hello everyone. I really need advice.

Well don't even know where to start from... The thing is, I really like my classmate, I dont even know what kind of feeling is this, is it love or not, because I have never experienced this before, but what I do know is that I want to be with her and I really want to have a relationship with her. I have been experiencing this feeling for a long time now, over 1 year and a half, each day, it gets worse and worse, and if I try to resist, it even gets much worse. I dont want to sit and wait around anymore, I want to act, but I need help and I dont know what to do. I don't know how to tell her, or even if she will accept this. The thing is, that she is quite a shy girl, I try to be a friend with her, but its quite hard for me. I just loose words when I'm with her and I can't tell her anything, I even made a Facebook account to be able to talk to her (I hate facebook) But still I can't, because either it's always me messaging her, or the conversation ends in just few minutes... It seems like she doesn't want to talk or something like that, but when I meet her, she always smiles and says hi or waves her hand, as do I. Or when we accidently look at each other, she smiles, or just quickly looks away. I jeel like I'm being ignored...

So what I need help with is, that might she be interested to have a relationship with me? Should I invite her somewhere and tell her that I like her? What should I do?

Thanks in advance.

[Bonfire]

I even made a Facebook account to be able to talk to her (I hate facebook) But still I can't, because either it's always me messaging her, or the conversation ends in just few minutes... It seems like she doesn't want to talk or something like that

This part here tells me she most-likely does not feel the same about you. If a girl likes a guy, she'll be comfortable talking to you online even if she is shy to talk in person. Smiling at you in class is just a friendly gesture so it doesn't mean anything. If you are too nervous to even talk to her in person, how are you going to go out with her? Maybe you should work on that area first until you work enough confidence to speak to a girl you like, then you are ready to approach and ask her out. Girls like guys who are confident so if you are a nervous wreck, they will probably reject you. Some girls do like shy guys so there are exceptions. But if you think you can handle rejections, sure why not go ahead and ask her to go hang out and see what happens.

[NormalGuy]

Thanks for reply.

The thing is... It's not about being nervous or something, Im just... not the person who usually talks, and I'm terrible at conversations, thats why I tend to be quiet most of times. I just don't know how to get to her you know, should I just ask her to go somwhere, or should talk to her at tell her about my feelings... I just dont know what to do. And no, Im not afraid of being rejected, I think its even better than doing nothing and thinking about this all the time...

[Bonfire]

Thanks for reply.

The thing is... It's not about being nervous or something, Im just... not the person who usually talks, and I'm terrible at conversations, thats why I tend to be quiet most of times. I just don't know how to get to her you know, should I just ask her to go somwhere, or should talk to her at tell her about my feelings... I just dont know what to do. And no, Im not afraid of being rejected, I think its even better than doing nothing and thinking about this all the time...

That's good that you are not insecure. I recommend asking her to go do something. That way you can tell if she likes you before you reveal your feelings. Telling a girl your feeling before you even get to know her personally is not a good idea and can scare them away.

[NormalGuy]

Okey... I decided to ask her out this weekend... It just feels a little awkward. Her not so good friend, just asking her to go out with him somewhere, well I guess I have to try. But I shouldn't dring any flowers or something right?... crap I'm terrible at these kind of stuff...

[Bonfire]

Okey... I decided to ask her out this weekend... It just feels a little awkward. Her not so good friend, just asking her to go out with him somewhere, well I guess I have to try. But I shouldn't dring any flowers or something right?... crap I'm terrible at these kind of stuff...

Flowers?? Whoa STOP!! No flowers, no gifts until they are actually your girlfriend. You will be so embarrass trying to buy her love. Don't reveal your feelings yet. Just try and be-friend her by talking to her. See if she even want to talk to you. If she doesn't, that a sign she isn't even interested. And you won't look bad since you didn't ask her out. Only ask a girl out if you detect that she likes you. And the way to tell if a girl likes you is she will try to talk to you when you are around.

[NormalGuy]

Alright, thanks much for help. Also, can I talk to her best friend? Ask her friend what she likes or maybe ask about myself... Obviously, she will suspect something, but is it the right thing to do?

[Looq]

Unless her best friend if your mutual friend too, someone you can trust, she will probably tell her best friend (she might even do that anyway), so personally, I wouldn't do that.

[NormalGuy]

So it would be bad if she hears from her friend that I like her...