Hi sorry for the long story but here it goes. Me and my ex were together 9 yrs, and were inseperable. I mean out of 365 days of a year- we were joined at the hip 365 days of the year. No one ever saw us alone, for that entire time. Now through out the 9 yrs, I had alot of personal issues which I know contributed to our break up. I always put my fam first- even when they didnt deserve it. I was basically an enabler for them, a crutch. Any money needed, I got. Any problems they had I fixed, and he felt like I never put him first (which i know is true). At like yr 6, he gave me a ring which he said symbolizes his love for me, and that no matter what, was I to take it off. I agreed, but things started to get stale. We were arguing a lot, and then I got into the "I dont know what to do with my life" phase, which made me depressed (i'm 21 by the way, he's 22) on top of that,I was hospitalized in our 9th year, and for a while, i felt like besides graduating HS, he really wasnt doing anything with his life. Yes it took me a while to graduate culinary school- but i eventually did. I kept nagging him to at least go to school- do something. he kept saying if i didnt ask to be with him 24/7 (which i did), he would have time to do stuff. Again, through out this time, i was completely depressed (plus i learned i was hormonaly imbalanced, but that was much later), i tried to tell him i need help- and he tried to tell me i need to stop verbally abusing him, that he couldnt take it much more. Arguing got worse and worse till finally i broke, and i took the ring off and gave it to him and walked away. When i realized what ive done (a half hour later), i called him to talk. I told him i was sorry, but at that point he didnt care (he has asked me to give him breaks before, but i refused), we ended not talking for like 3 weeks. I contacted him to see if i can mend us, but he told me he didnt want to jump into a relationship wit me right now, and he said he wasnt ready, so again we argued for some time till i said i'll be happy if we were just friends. Somehow we started sleeping together again, but he also told me he didnt want it to mean anything- i said thats ok. it was for a while. He was so on and off, one min all lovey dovey, the next cold as ice. This goes on for 9 months. I find out he has a facebook profile wit him and another girl in it and it said in a relationship. It totally broke my heart cause he lied to me about being with someone else, and when i confronted him, he said they were just friends, that he wasnt ready for a relationship. It grew so out of control, that he said he never wants to speak to me again. That was a month ago. Our love was real, and I know I was selfish for not giving him a break from me, but I hope I didnt ruin all chances for reconciliation. I've been doing no contact for this whole month- it hurts like hell, and I still love him dearly, and he told me he still loves me, but wants to get his life in order(that was before the argument) I dont know what to think HELP!