So I’ve had this happen a few times so I wanted to know from a guy’s perspective.
A couple of weeks ago a guy friend and I had a tiff and he told me to leave him alone. Looking back now it wasn’t that big of a deal… like… I didn’t kill his dog or anything… just a regular I’m grumpy and you’re grumpy and that caused a grump explosion. After a few days I was no longer upset about the situation and I assumed he would have cooled off by now too. This all happened before this big stressful event he was working on. I thought after the event passed I’d get an email or call and we’d apologize for snapping at each other and happy fun times would ensure once more.
It’s been two weeks and I still haven’t heard from him. I don’t want to poke the bear if he’s still really angry, but I have had a few situations where I actively didn’t contact someone only to find out they forgot they even “shunned” me.
It sucks I haven’t talked to him in two weeks, but it sucks even more to feel like he’s still so mad at me that he’s not over it after two weeks. I take this kind of stuff to heart. I’m not debilitated or anything. I’m still kicking asses and taking names, but I’m still aware the last thing he said to me was “Leave me Alone” and it’s a bummer, because what if all this while he completely forgot about it and we could ensuing in shenanigans once more.
So I guess my question is… as a guy… do you remember that kind of stuff? Do you remember if you’ve told someone to back off or leave you alone when you’re a grump monster? And if so do you reach out first after the dust has settled, or do you just get over it and assume the other person will contact you whenever? How long should I hang back before it’s safe to send a “How are things?”