My partner wants to change me

[st. etienne]

I've almost been with my partner for a year now, and recently she has pressured me to changing my ways more than usual. I'm continuously being "told off" for mistakes I make, which isn't a big deal to me but I respect her opinions of the matter. But it seems like she's trying to make me the "perfect boyfriend" when I can't be that person. I have tried and tried and tried to satisfy her, but she always finds something to have a go at me for. I don't know whether she just gets angry easily because she is on the depo (which expires next week), or whether I just make her angry, but I want to be able to make her happy by being me, and not the person I can't be. What do I do?

[MrE]

Don't go for that. If your lady wont let you be yourself, then be yourself with somebody that accepts you for who you are.

[98db]

I tried to do the same thing with my Ex. It is not fair for them. If you don't walk away because you know you cannot/won't change, at some point she will realize that she cannot change you and walk away herself.

[Spring Haze]

Stop trying to satisfy her. Tell her that you can't be the perfect boyfriend. Have you discussed your frustrations with her at all? That's what you need to do.

[devonbrown]

Simply talk to her. She may just be looking for things to argue about. Which would indicate bigger issues in the relationship. But remind her that she started liking you for who you are, not who she thought you might be. Tell her how her criticizing makes you feel and see if you can work through it with her. If not, it is probably time to move on.

Good luck.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Don't bother discussing anything with her. You know it will lead to an argument and clearly don't have the backbone to win one with her. Just tell her that you two aren't a good match and it's time to go your separate ways.

[doppelgaenger]

"Suck my cock, bitch!"

[VincenzoG91]

Maybe you could try changing her into a person who isn't trying to change you. Nah, just tell her how you feel about this, and be prepared to break up if necessary. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with an unhappy control freak.

[smackie9]

You obviously are not compatible. Relationships will come and go in your life......and since life is so short, you are best to try again with someone else.