Or is this just what we tell ourselves when someone doesn't feel the same way we do? Is it possible for someone to just turn their feelings off? Why do men tell you they care, then run away. Why won't he tell me why he ran away? Just avoided my call and never answered the questions in my email.... (45 years old, divorced after 25 years, so basically I have the experience of a 17 year old when it comes to romantic love.)