I hope this doesn't sound mean, but I'm starting to get tired of guys who lack skill in the physical intimacy department. I'm not even talking about sex, but all the other stuff leading up to it. In my earlier relationships, I was more understanding because I was younger and so were the guys I dated. I thought "Well, he's only 20, it's OK if he doesn't really know how to kiss yet" or "He obviously hasn't had too much experience, but that's OK, he's only 22..." etc (although to be honest, I think early twenties is too old to not know how to kiss). And these guys were not totally inexperienced, they'd had relationships before, they weren't virgins, it just seemed that they hadn't learned from their experience.
But I'm 25 now and I really feel that guys should know the basics by this age. I know what I'm doing, not because I've had a ton of experience, just because I have common sense and most of it seems obvious to me. I know people can get better with practice, but it really puts a damper on things when I have to "train" the guy (I know how to do it without saying a word, so no one's feelings get hurt, but still). I hate to compare, but it was a lot more enjoyable to be in a relationship with a guy who knew what he was doing and didn't need me to teach him. I don't like taking control, that's not enjoyable for me, and it makes things really awkward.
What am I supposed to do about a guy who's great in every other way, but acts like a teenager when it comes to the physical stuff? It's not easy for me to find someone where there's mutual attraction and chemistry, so it's not really as simple as finding someone else. And, is this a common problem? Do most guys in their mid-twenties lack skill, despite having enough experience?