really lost

[schueys_girl]

it just seems to me thier your parents, and they know your going to be upset about the breakup, so why would they worry about society when your going thru hell?! As much of a pain in the ass my parents are they still did all the right things when i went thru breakups...

[confusedsoul]

well as you said.. u wont understand cause thats my parents:(. Actually my dad and not my mother...
Well Its just going to be another pain in wrong place at wrong time.

[confusedsoul]

How to really control urself when you feel like contacting the other person. I had a talk with her today (the "official" final one, we had some technical issues to take care of). And I just couldnt stop myself from saying quite a few silly things. I didnt get into all of the things but still ended up saying that maybe we deserved better or the fact that this is the LAST TIME I ever speak to her...

I know on one side all the sentiments start coming in while you know somewhere ITS OVER. When you say stay strong, is it that one has to say I am better without her or just to avoid the thought. How does one really control himself AT THAT WEAK MOMENT???????

I am wrecked and hope to get some sleep......

[schueys_girl]

You just have to stay strong...dont contact her...when u get lonely and reach for the phone to ring her, ring someone else...your best mate or somoene like that or come on here and type another post. Just dont contact her at all. Moving on takes a lot of time, you need to concentrate on yourself and enjoying your life, see your friends as much as possible, go out and do things you enjoy, start a new hobby etc theres no magic formula, just no contact and lots of time...

[confusedsoul]

Hey Schueys (and others too),
I have lots of updates to make from last 2 days. I somehow managed to not to call her. And also gathered enough courage to talk to my parents. And somehow my dad responded well (ya I told him so too, that from all my experiences I never thought u could be considerate). One reason could be that I am couple of thousand miles away from home but anyway it went ok thats the fact. I couldnt give all the details, but to be frank it felt good to speak to someone.

But at other times I still feel messed up and that lead to few blunders. I had reached the breaking point in my job or atleast I felt so (after 1 complete night of thinking) and ended up asking for a break. I dont know if it was a way of reacting to my love life, but I feel I could really get fired and this might be better. I still dont know if I will take a break or not (they dont know the reason, I just said I am not in good state) and dont even know if thats a good idea.
Also her parents want to speak to me, which again I know I shouldnt do. But I really need some kind of closure on all the fronts. I wont be seeing these people ever again and its like a family which I have lost. I know it would look foolish to say this to them, but thats how I feel. If I speak what should I say, is it stupid to convey your feelings just cause you ended the relationship? I mean I have that sort of attachment with these people, should I just deny it? I would be glad if you could help me...

[schueys_girl]

Ok, with your job im not sure if it is a good idea if you 'take a break'. At least with having a job it is keeping you busy at times and your mind on other things. If you are not happy in your job then actively look for another, or do some more qualifications or something, but i wouldnt suggest doing nothing at all.

As with the family...how do u know her parents want to speak to you? And have they said why? If you need the closure on the family (something i understand very much) then fair enough go and see the parents, but without your ex there, as you have done well not calling her so far and you dont want to back track on yourself.

You have no need to ask what you should say. Just be yourself and be honest. You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of...

[confusedsoul]

Hey guys,
I just wanted to thankyou for being here... I didnt visit the forum for a while cause I wanted to keep all that love and dumping feelings away from me..Yesterday was bad and I was quite desperate to call my ex and thats when I came back here just to read the comments in the posts. I felt like everyone is so caringly advising what is good for ppl like me and I should listen to it rather than foolishly calling her. I cant explain it in words but I felt I owe to all of you, who listen to other ppl's problems and tell them how they should act rationally. So I decided to cheer up ( ya it was difficult atleast yesterday ) and do something better than calling my ex.
So thankyou all of you